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Why do women tolerate so much injustice? Fight back for yourself and for others, says this post.
“She is the world’s need, yet the most misunderstood personality
Why does not the world heed, when she cries out in times of adversity?”
A woman of today is no different from the woman of yesterday, despite the education, the upbringing, the boldness or the individuality she carries with her. She still feels as vulnerable in present times as before. The feminist in a woman takes a back seat when trouble comes knocking, and she looks around for help, for support, for a morale boost that seemingly gives her momentary relief.
A woman going through a rough relationship, a woman harassed for dowry, a woman traumatized by roving eyes and groping hands of vagabonds of a demented society when she goes for work, a woman suffering domestic abuse in silence no matter how many degrees her intellect has earned her, a woman raising her children who turn out exactly the way she does not want them to, a woman ailing in an old age home spurned by her children at a time when she most needs them, a woman falling into honey traps set by strangers in the virtual world only to be abused and dumped, et al speaks of a change that is yet to happen, or needs to happen.
Despite the education and the work experiences a modern-day woman has, she is still tied to a society by shackles of beliefs, traditions, and the fears of being ostracised even as her conscience forces her to pursue what she feels is right. When I read about dowry deaths, suicides or cases of abuse, I have observed that victims are sometimes educated and were probably even working.
Then why is it that a woman allows herself to feel the pain and trauma that she does not deserve at all? Why can’t a woman take a stand when she sees the first streak of injustice slapped on her? Why can’t she be brave enough to turn her back on a society that is still ravaged by meaningless beliefs and falsified egos?
A modern-day woman needs to understand her importance. She needs to take a stand for herself when the time calls for it. She needs to speak for herself instead of letting someone play advocate for her. She has to understand that even God helps those who help themselves.
At the first incidence of injustice, she must voice her opinion loud enough to be heard. In certain cases, where a woman does not speak of being victimized in the first instance, she later gets chained by the Stockholm syndrome and suffers injustice silently. It is high time she learns to tackle her issues with tact along with carving an identity for herself. Learning techniques of self defense is one such means of protecting her dignity, her identity, and her self esteem from the miscreants that our society has no dearth of.
And one of the best things modern-day mothers can do is to teach their sons to respect girls, and to help them understand the importance of a woman. Even today, there are mothers who crave sons. Ironically, it is not just women from rural areas, but also a certain percentage of the educated lot who bear a mindset as that.
Have those mothers thought for a second – if they had only sons and no daughters, what would their sons do in a world where there are no women? Why have they not thought of leaving a better generation to this planet? It is high time the woman of today sets a precedent for her kind and sends a message – loud and clear- to society.
“Each time a woman stands for herself, without knowing it possibly, without claiming it, she stands up for all women” – Maya Angelou
This post was first published here.
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Trigger warning: This post contains depiction of normalised violence against women, and may be triggering for survivors.
My belly is living proof
of the life I have grown, held, and birthed
a ‘permanently pregnant’ swell
stretch marks and a caesarian scar
that still itch
an experience I wouldn’t trade in
except for what I was told by the father of my child.
It is easy to give in to patriarchal expectations from a married woman and lose your self in a marriage, but the path to happiness is in keeping your independence.
Marriage is often described as the joining of two individuals’ bodies, minds, and souls. Upon getting married, you are expected to share everything with your partner, including time, money, and all other aspects of life. Your life should revolve around your spouse from beginning to end.
But is it necessary to spend every waking moment with the spouse? Are you not supposed to have a life apart from your spouse? And do these rules apply only to women or men as well?
Although both men and women may face this situation, women are generally expected to give up everything once they get married. Despite progress in several areas, expecting women to abandon their interests, passions, and friendships to align their lives with those of their spouses is still considered the norm.
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