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A daughter-in-law is never considered equal to the daughter...there are so many instances when my in laws treated me like an outsider; secrets were kept from me.
A daughter-in-law is never considered equal to the daughter…there are so many instances when my in laws treated me like an outsider; secrets were kept from me.
I have spent 2 years of my married life with my in laws. The day I got married my mom told me “treat your mom-in-law as your own mother”, but the day I entered my sasural I realized that the situation was different; she was not my mom… She showed extra love and care to her daughter in front of me. I don’t know why, and what she wanted to show.
Then came the time when my sister-in-law’s marriage was going to get fixed, so her would be husband and his family was visiting to see her. By chance I was at my mother’s place at the time, and I was not to be informed about those people; that they were coming to see her, because I might tell my parents!
I was shocked to hear from my sister-in-law that her mother (my MIL) told her not to inform me because ”abhi jab tak date nhi nikal jati kisi ko nhi batana.” (Until a date is fixed, don’t tell anyone). Ohhh god, I was not considered as part of the family!
Had this happened with my sister-in-law too, when her parents were searching for a girl for her brother? No! She is the daughter of the house, so she should know who was to be her sister-in-law or bhabi…
This was not the first time I was treated like an outsider. One instance which I remembered was when I was sitting in my mom-in-law’s room and she had to take out some money to give my sister-in-law for shopping. She didn’t open the almirah in front of me and asked me to to out…as if I was going to steal her things…
After all I am the daughter-in-law…. I am an outsider!
Image source: a still from the short film Ghar ki Murgi
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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