If you want to understand how to become better allies to people with disabilities, then join us at Embracing All Abilities: Including People with Disabilities at Work.
The pain of long distance relationships rises when both partners are unable to fully understand and communicate with each other.
Does a long distance relationship between a married couple really work, especially after they have a child? We can never feel the pain of long distance relationships until we go through such a separation.
Every individual has their own perceptions of marriage. Some want to first fall in love and then get married, while some want to know the feel of love and being loved by someone only after marriage. However, the ultimate thing we need in a marriage is of having that one person of our life with whom we can share our pain, who can understand us, whom we can trust and most importantly, who will be beside us at all difficult situations.
When a relationship faces a geographical separation, it becomes difficult to handle it, especially when one of them is not willing to move. And in such situations, with an increase in distance between two, chances of misunderstandings increases.
I remember the days when my father stayed away from us for his profession, and my brother chose to move to a different country for his studies. I had missed their presence but my relationship as a daughter and sister never felt weak or disturbed the way it felt in just one year of married life, and that too just after having a baby. This was the time when as a first time mother, I needed my husband’s support both physically and mentally. I also wanted to cherish the moments together by watching the baby growing-up.
When we are not ready for such a situation, it’s quite a difficult task. Even if we already had a vision of such a situation which would last for a few months, what makes it worse is that the few months turn into many months and then into a year.
There are people who think that a relationship between two people will not be affected just because they are far away, and that in fact it should just get stronger. But that’s only when both understand and support each other at all times though staying apart, and when we individually receive proper support from our family and when people around us respect our thoughts. When we start giving justifications for all our needs and thoughts, the relationship just weakens.
When one makes a promise of taking responsibility equally, promises to take care of you at all situation, promises to be there with you all the time but then never turns up to fulfil any of those promises, we just end up losing trust in them. It becomes difficult to believe them again. And in a relationship, trust and belief should never go missing.
In a long distance relationship, more than words, tears speak about our pain.
It takes hours to cover the distance between two places while it takes years together to cover the distance between two hearts.
Image is a screengrab from the Hindi show Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai
Women's Web is an open platform that publishes a diversity of views. Individual posts do not necessarily represent the platform's views and opinions at all times. If you have a complementary or differing point of view, sign up and start sharing your views too!
I am a daughter, a sister, a wife, a daughter in law and a mother. Meantime just trying to find "myself" who got lost in playing these roles. read more...
Women's Web is an open platform that publishes a diversity of views, individual posts do not necessarily represent the platform's views and opinions at all times.
Stay updated with our Weekly Newsletter or Daily Summary - or both!
'Sania denied fairy-tale ending: suffers loss in AUS open final' says a news headline. Is this the best we can do? Is it a fitting tribute to one of the finest athletes we have in our country?
Sania Mirza bid an emotional and tearful farewell to her Grand Slam journey as a runner up in the mixed doubles final. Headlines read –
“Sania Mirza breaks down in tears while recalling glorious career after defeat in Grand Slam’
“Sania denied fairy-tale ending: suffers loss in AUS open final”
As parents, we put a piece of our hearts out into this world and into the custody of the teachers at school and tuition and can only hope and pray that they treat them well.
Trigger Warning: This speaks of physical and emotional violence by teachers, caste based abuse, and contains some graphic details, and may be triggering for survivors.
When I was in Grade 10, I flunked my first preliminary examination in Mathematics. My mother was in a panic. An aunt recommended the Maths classes conducted by the Maths sir she knew personally. It was a much sought-after class, one of those classes that you signed up for when you were in the ninth grade itself back then, all those decades ago. My aunt kindly requested him to take me on in the middle of the term, despite my marks in the subject, and he did so as a favour.
Math had always been a nightmare. In retrospect, I wonder why I was always so terrified of math. I’ve concluded it is because I am a head in the cloud person and the rigor of the step by step process in math made me lose track of what needed to be done before I was halfway through. In today’s world, I would have most probably been diagnosed as attention deficit. Back then we had no such definitions, no such categorisations. Back then we were just bright sparks or dim.
Please enter your email address