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Talking to a stranger, telling them your thoughts, is intimacy of a different level which comes with the liberty to pull back whenever you want.
Writing a letter is an intimate act. When I was a little girl I used to write letters to my cousins after they moved to a different city. I was afraid they would forget me and I wanted to make sure they didn’t. So I wrote them letters and they would write me back.
I don’t remember how or when I stopped, possibly after mobile phones happened and it became easier to just call someone and talk than to write a letter and wait for days for a response. Sometimes the ease of convenience makes us forget the charm of efforts.
I did not write letters for a long time after that until last year I wrote one to one of my childhood friends. Not that we could not talk, we talk almost every day, but I wanted to do something special for her, to make her feel that she might be in a different city but she wasn’t lonely. And what better way to make her feel that way than the intimacy of a letter?
That one letter wasn’t the end of it though. I soon joined an online initiative where you sign up to write or receive letters. I always sign up to write a letter. There’s so much I wish to say but I don’t wish to say all of that to people who know me, people I interact with every day.
Talking to a stranger, telling them your thoughts, is intimacy of a different level which comes with the liberty to pull back whenever you want. These letters that I write to a new stranger have given me perspective about myself without the judgement of other person being visible to me. I can talk to these strangers about my trauma, or my obsession with books, or love, without the fear of having to see them roll their eyes at me, or feel pity, or bored.
Once I write a letter and hit the send button, I no longer hold any responsibility. It’s as if my words have just floated in the air and will fall down on earth bits by bits without me having to watch that happen. It’s therapeutic. It’s liberating.
These letter receivers, wonderful people, are my unwilling secret-keepers. There’s someone who knows what I was thinking at a certain point in time and they are going to keep it to themselves.
Sometimes I have received replies, all good things. Insisting that my letter helped them. That makes me feel good but that was never the point. It’s good to know that I helped someone, but this letter writing is purely because it helps me.
In a world that’s growing more and more cold and distant, to know that a stranger is within reach to listen to what I have to say is the best form of therapy.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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