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My fear of losing a relationship just turned out to be my fear and nothing changed at home and this time, with a lot of support I am planning my second backpacking trip.
Marriage and motherhood – handling changes in life after marriage can be bewildering. And life after a child can often be disastrous for an Indian woman.
I am one of those women who always wanted to fit in a man’s life and design my life accordingly. I am also one of those women who would risk anything to give what needs to be given to my girl.
No I am not a split personality. And YES, I am a MOTHER.
One fine day, I realized that my daughter has’t faced anything tough in life. She has always been in her luxury provided by her Techie parents. I am a firm believer in the lessons learnt by experience and what could be better than travelling. So I decided to backpack with her.
How many parents/husbands let their daughters/wives travel alone with the child in India? I was given a thousand reasons of not doing this trip even before I told them I was travelling alone. I never told them I was travelling alone after the reactions I received from the family until I came back.
The day had arrived and we were ready to depart. This was when I had butterflies in my stomach, a pull back, a fear and a lot of mixed emotions. By now my Dad and my husband were not on talking terms with me as I was adamant of taking this trip. That day was when I thought I have lost every relationship I had made just to give my daughter experiences and prepare her to the real life out there.
I took a deep breath, looked at the little one and boarded the flight with a lot of dilemma in my head and I swear that had been the best trip of our lives till day and that trip gave me a lesson about taking decisions about what is important and what is not. My fear of losing a relationship just turned out to be my fear and nothing changed at home and this time, with a lot of support I am planning my second backpacking trip. But if I hadn’t gone that day, I wouldn’t have been able to take a stand ever I believe.
This is the one true experience I had to believe in myself and prioritize my decisions.
A version of this was first published here.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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