Its not about education, it's about the mentality that should always start from the family.
During their lifetime, each and every woman must have asked these questions to herself;
Why did it happen to me?
When will good times come?
What wrong did I do to anyone?
Where will I get happiness?
Who is the person who will answer the above questions and be the harbinger of happiness? Will you be forever waiting for these answers and let your life pass in vain?
Priority has always been in favour of a boy child over a girl child. He will get more love, more importance as compared to the girl child. The girl knows everything about this disparity but she cannot complain. Why I am not getting equal love from all like he is getting? The question will remain a question forever.
As per Indian tradition, after crossing puberty, girls are mature but boys will remain kids forever. Girls should not go out and mingle with boys and play. It doesn’t suit her and what will the society think? Every girl must have these thoughts during this time that why is she is a girl and needs to curb her freedom?
Once you cross 18, what is next? Of course, it is marriage. What is the need for girls need to study and spend money on their studies? They will soon be married before they become a perceived burden for anybody. The marriage will be the answer to the following questions:
Where are our choices and opinions? No one even bothers to know or ask what a girl wants.
As per the early marriage agreement, a girl should be ready to become housewives and forget everything about her own wishes. Career ends here. She knows all cooking, cleaning, household things and can take care of all in the family. Yes, she is perfect in everything and now you don’t need to pay the money to your maid. Our daughter cum housewife cum maid can take care of everything. I forgot to include that she should be well educated also so that she can take care of the kids’ homework and attend parents meeting and also if the financial needs come, she can go to work as well.
Why is no one taking the girl’s opinion? It’s a command from the family and society that girls have to follow.
We always talk about women’s education as most important. But in this generation, many of educated girls are the sole witness of the same issue and killing their dreams. So it’s not about education, it’s about the mentality that should always start from the family.
Don’t treat girls as a liability. Even they can support the family-like boys.
Image is a still from the movie Mausam
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This strange love story reminds me of Princess Diana when she gave an interview about Prince Charles - "There were three of us in this marriage!”
This love was flawed and broken the way only we humans know how to break things with our ego, pride, insecurity and complexities!
Where do I even begin to tell the story of how deep a love can be, how it transcends time, place and people. Perhaps this is a story about how women are their own worst enemies. Either way it is a story that tells us how frail, fragile and fraught we are as humans and how much we hurt each other.
This love story began when I was two years old. Growing up in India in a culture that wove love stories like Laila Majnu, Heer Ranjha and the epic symbol of love, the Taj Mahal, into the very fabric of our existence, love was always an integral part of our lives.
One such love story was of a boy and a girl who were neighbours. The boy, an athlete, artist and a poet, found his muse in this shy, thoughtful and in her own way poetic girl, who seemed to worship the very ground he walked on. Her face could be found in all the paintings he created, and her name in every poem he wrote. The girl called him Sagar, which means ocean, symbolizing his all-encompassing love for her.
Earlier my husband would say, 'Arey! What is there in making dal-roti? It's so simple.' After he had to cook everyday when I was ill, he has stopped saying that to me!
“Arey! What is there to do in making dal roti? Put a handful of lentils in the cooker and let it whistle and make two rotis. After all, how long will it take?” A handful of dal (lentils) and two rotis! This is the story of every woman and no one seems to understand.
Some time ago, after a shopping spree, my husband and I entered the house, exhausted. I had just about kept all the bags aside, when my husband said, “I am very hungry, can you make something.”
I looked at my husband in amazement and thought, ‘He had just had food, how did he get hungry again so soon?’
My husband, as if he had read my face, said, “Arey! You know that my stomach is not filled with outside food. Just make dal roti. What is there to do in making dal roti? Put a handful of lentils in the cooker and let it whistle and make two rotis. After all, how long will it take?”
‘Is this the way dal (lentils) and roti are made?’ The thought came to my mind. ‘After all, I also went along and now I am tired too.’ I was also getting angry at myself that after all, I had spoiled the habit of everyone in the house.
Right from our childhood, we are taught the idea of love and its intersection with marriage. But why can't they be two different entities?
Right from our childhood, we are taught the idea of love and its intersection with marriage. But why can’t they be two different entities?
My mother was on the phone and continued giving her anecdotes on lehengas and why Sarojini Nagar was the best for all the purchasing. By the looks of it, I knew she was talking to her best friend, who I fondly refer to as ‘Chachi.’
Amused, I asked her, “Has Chachi decided to get married again?”
“Oh no! Her niece is getting married,” she replied casually before putting a hand on my mouth while I let out a squeal. I was also awarded a death stare at the squeal from my mother.
I unwittingly watched porn on my 15th birthday, and I still remain the butt of jokes. Why are women judged for watching porn when men aren't?
I unwittingly watched porn on my 15th birthday, and I still remain the butt of jokes. Why are women judged for watching porn when men aren’t?
It was my birthday and I had just turned fifteen. I studied in a co-ed convent and the amusing thing was that we were only eight girls in a class of forty students.
Fifteen is an age where you have mixed feelings, there is an urge in you and you don’t know how to deal with it. One of our classmates had just returned from the US, and all the girls were attracted to him. He spoke very openly about some Angie with whom he had had sex in school back in America. Sex is certainly fascinating and as usual I was equally intrigued by it.
He circulated some yellow leafed books which had graphic details on intercourse, budding breasts, and privates of men. It was a highly misogynistic era (and sadly it still remains the same). In our class of forty pupils, the boys could talk about sex but we girls, couldn’t. And among the eight girls I was the odd one.