Check out 16 Return-To-Work Programs In India For Ambitious Women Like You!
Before the author's son Laksh was born, she was told that it would be a difficult journey. However, he is growing up at his own pace and here is his story!
Before the author’s son Laksh was born, she was told that it would be a difficult birth. However, the child is growing up at his own pace and here is his story
“Leave this world… a better place than how you found it.” ― Sarah J. Maas, A Court of Wings and Ruin
When I first read this, it made sense to me. I always strove to be a better person so I can help the people around me. This is what drove me into becoming a physical therapist in the first place. Some where down the road. I got jaded and forgot that drive.
When Laksh came into my life, I read this quote with a whole new meaning. I do want the world to see my son for who he is and not what category or label he fits under. And then put the corresponding limitations on him. I wish for people to see people as people and not as their biases allow them to or force them to see.
Laksh, our rainbow baby was answers to all my prayers. When we were pregnant with him, after the half way mark, doctors started telling us he isn’t growing like they wanted him to grow. They suspected IUGR (intra uterine growth restriction), due to which we had to be seen more often.
Most doctors already thought that I would have GD (gestational diabetes) or pre-eclampsia because I was overweight. It didn’t matter to them that before we got pregnant, I lost 70 pounds and went on a healthy eating style with exercise.
All they saw was a plus size women who would definitely be a plagued with diseases.
But none of that was true, including the IUGR. I had a healthy pregnancy. They predicated Laksh would be born severely malnourished and need immediate care. But he wasn’t. He was born with a perfect APGAR score and a healthy weight. The only reason we needed NICU stay was because of Hirschsprung’s disease.
Laksh was born at 36 weeks and 1 day and when I first heard him cry, tears of relief and joy started flowing. Relief because the doctors had scared me into thinking there would be something wrong with him, and joy because he was here.
Laksh, means goal in Hindi, is an accurate name for him. Once he sets his mind on something, he will do it. It might take him a few seconds to master it (like fist bumping) or it could take him a few months (walking and signing). But he always gets there in the end. And isn’t that what matters? Your child achieving goals and hitting milestones but only at his pace instead of that of others.
To me, that doesn’t matter. I am not trying to sugar coat anything, I know there would be some struggles. But I also know my son and I know he will come out shining. Like my husband always says, Laksh is following his own curve and let him.
So you see, I have always been judged based on my looks and I know that sucks. And I know I don’t want that for Laksh or anyone else. Which is why, I am trying to make this world a more kinder, more inclusive place where anyone and everyone feel welcome.
A world that is free of bullies, a world where no kid should feel ashamed of who they are, a world where who won’t be seen as a label but a person with unlimited potential.
Picture credits: the author
Hello Everyone, My Name Is Smriti And I Am A Physical Therapist, Mom, Wife, Sister, And Daughter. I Love Helping People And Learning New Things. My Son Laksh Was Diagnosed With Down Syndrome And Hirschsprung' read more...
Women's Web is an open platform that publishes a diversity of views, individual posts do not necessarily represent the platform's views and opinions at all times.
Stay updated with our Weekly Newsletter or Daily Summary - or both!
UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
Please enter your email address