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The author writes a thought provoking post about how we have double standards when it comes to treating men and women. This must change!
My family restricts me from posting our pictures on social media. It was even worse some 7 years ago and unlike now not everyone was on social media. I used a Facebook account with some random profile pictures with quotes and cute animals. My cousin who was in college back then, was looking through Facebook profiles with his friends. They were having fun commenting on the pictures which girls had posted. Just then, they saw a picture and he(my cousin) mistook that girl for me. The account name was different. He thought that the girl resembled me(later when I saw that pic, I felt she did not look like me in anyway).
Back home he told his parents, my parents and my grandparents that I had posted my picture and that boys were commenting on my picture. He said how he felt ashamed of me. My entire family started cursing me for I had tarnished the family name(according to them posting pictures on social media is still a big sin).They did not see the pictures and didn’t even bother to let me explain. They just started scolding me. When I finally figured out what was going on, I asked him to show the picture. Immediately I found out it was not me. When the picture was shown to my family they too agreed it was not me and the whole commotion stopped.
Everyone forgot about it. If that picture had been really mine, the scene would have been totally different. They would have even accused me that I had lost my chastity and what not. What still bothers me is even after knowing it was not me no one actually thought about advising him or scolding him. He too looked through the pictures of girls and made fun of them.
Boys should be taught how to behave. He would have repeated the same thing again with his friends. Some others would have been his victim. This small thing may lead to big mistakes. People nag girls and give lecture to girls on what they should and should not do. They should at least spend half of the time to teach their sons how to treat girls and how to look at them with respect. Why only daughters bother them?
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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