Anupama writes a letter to her 18-years old daughter. Read what she has to say.
Stalk a person because apparently that’s the best way to gain interest as per movies. However, take a reality check and you will realise that stalking in India is an ugly fact which leaves the victims horrified and fighting to live their life normally.
As per Wikipedia, “unwanted and obsessive attention towards a person by a single individual or a group of people” is known as stalking. In our country, stalking is most visible in entertainment culture such as movies and songs where it is a glorified method of gaining a love interest’s attention. But this is what we see in the ‘reel’ life.
Coming back to reality, any normal individual would get creeped out or scared if they get the feeling that they are being followed. We tend to ignore it if the same person is seen once or twice at the same place but the situation changes when you start to see that same person everywhere you go.
Moreover, due to being highlighted and encouraged in movies, the stalker thinks that their victim is a person who needs to get ‘rescued’ or is actually interested in them. What makes this situation frightening is that children and teens are the ones who pay more attention to movies and songs compared to adults. This implies that for them, stalking becomes perceived as something routine and normal, while in fact this crime can land a person in jail for three years and may also include a fine (quite besides the emotional impact on the victim).
In India, the case of S. Swathi gained attention in 2016 when she was murdered in Chennai in daylight, by Ramkumar who was allegedly stalking her on Facebook as well as offline for months before he proceeded to kill her at a railway station. The accused also said that he saw Swathi and fell in love with her and cited this as the reason for stalking her but when she ignored his advances, he killed her.
This example shows that the accused did not believe that he had committed a crime and for him, stalking was the ‘correct’ way of gaining attention. This way of thinking needs to be changed as such incidents can affect a person’s life in uncountable ways. Also, stalking often affects the victim’s reputation in India, as women are perceived to ‘ask for it’ by their way of dressing, going out or simply living their lives! In some cases, stalking also graduates to sexual assault.
A change needs to be made but changes do not happen without our support; therefore, sign this petition at Change.org to bring about a change which is way overdue.
This ‘No More Stalking’ petition was started to stop the glorification of stalking in Tamil movies after it is clear that stalking leads to assault, murder and other kinds of crime against women. I encourage all readers to sign this petition and take action to create a better environment for women of all ages.
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