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Unmask, Love, Liberate : The Road To Freedom

We're often shackled by our own fears. This introspective post suggests that being honest to yourself is the first step to freedom from fear.

We’re often shackled by our own fears. This introspective post suggests that being honest to yourself is the first step to freedom from fear.

Life, in all its splendour, can change in an instant. There are times where we feel the state we are in would last forever. But then a day arrives when we wake up and we don’t feel that stab of pain as intensely as we did. But we carry it in our heart forever. Oh, how we carry it!

As we evolve over the years; the relationships, varied circumstances, fleeting feelings, we realise just how much we have changed. And certain things we went through or did, we couldn’t have ever imagined ourselves going through at any stage of our lives. And reality dawns upon us, that all we felt we might be able to protect ourselves from, is exactly what we endured. No amount of reason or logic was able to shield us from the whirlwind of emotions we went through or the situations we landed up in or carved for ourselves.

Our heart is like the ocean, it contains more than we thought possible, and its sheer magnitude and force surprises us many a times.

Our heart is like the ocean, it contains more than we thought possible, and its sheer magnitude and force surprises us many a times. Why do we keep all of it bottled inside and choose how much to reveal? Why do we filter our words but are unable to do the same for our thoughts and feelings? The one who knows us the best is our own self.

We know every good, bad or evil thought that runs through our mind but do not wish to disclose most of these lest someone judges us for the same. We all wish to be viewed a certain way. We know that a slight infraction may be pardoned but certain deeds or situations about ourselves, if brought to light, would cause another to gasp and reel in shock.

So we walk around every day with all of this inside us, hoping that we are able to free ourselves from it and to find someone with whom we may develop more chapters to our own story – someone whose life would be entwined with ours and provide us that space we all seek so desperately in order to find comfort and solace.

Today as I experience love, I walk down memory lane and try to sift through all my life lessons. The ones I wish to carry forward and the ones which are better left behind, and it dawns on me that perhaps a huge part of who I am today and my reasons for getting here, some my own and some inevitable, make the most sense when I accept and confront everything about my life.

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As painful and burdening it may be to carry ‘secrets’ alone, there are times one may experience the pain of hearing the untold stories as well. It is truly remarkable when all the fear that we have in our minds, we see mirrored in another. But what differentiates us from them is the courage they have to reveal who they are and bear their souls as naked, risking the consequences of such admissions.

Yes, it is indeed difficult to keep all of our worst fears and such life experiences sealed shut within us, but the reason we do so is simply because we know that the right person or the right time is crucial for our peace and sanity.

Maybe we need to bring ourselves closer to our own selves first – to value ourselves, seek forgiveness, accept ourselves, be willing to grow and change, and most importantly, love ourselves

Maybe we need to bring ourselves closer to our own selves first – to value ourselves, seek forgiveness, accept ourselves, be willing to grow and change, and most importantly, love ourselves. Perhaps only then would we realise, no matter if it is untold, till the time we are courageous enough to talk about it, there may be the slight chance that we are able to lessen the anguish for ourselves. And this would give us the power to allow clarity and love into our lives which would help us break free of the shackles we impose on ourselves.

 

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Sonali D.

Soul centric and free spirited all the while living life through travel and adrenaline junkie activities. Counselling Psychologist and Educator by vocation. And a life and laughter enthusiast by heart. Usually found daydreaming about her read more...

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