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Accepting your love for chick lit publicly means you will be looked down upon as girly, but what is wrong with being girly?
Would you crack an interview for an editorial position if the answer to ‘who’s your favourite author’ is Sophie Kinsella and not Salman Rushdie?
Late at night, we all love reading about a twenty-something urban girl, who has a career, is willing to have fun, wrestle with weight gain, and ridicule arranged marriages and find love her way. The genre recognisable with its pink cover art of stilettos, martini glasses and lipsticks has been growing in popularity in India as well. Rajashree’s Trust Me is the biggest selling Indian chick lit novel. We all bought Weisberger’s The Devil Wears Prada and re-read Bridget Jones, nursing our girly-sentiments of a rosy-coloured world with a perfect happily-ever-after with our Mr Darcy. Bollywood movies like Aisha grossed a profit.
But we still feel ashamed to accept our love for them in a social gathering. Why? Why is chick lit as a genre looked down upon with a derogatory glance? Young boys do not feel ashamed to accept that they loved the Pyar ka Punchnama movie. The typical image of a “young boy” is associated with being chilled out, hurling invectives, flirtations and life revolving around friends and a peg of whisky. Not a very pleasant picture. But they are not ashamed of it!
If a woman accepts that she likes nursing her soft, cushion-y sentiments by reading chick lit and watching chick-flicks, that she dreams of her “perfect man”, her Darcy, and would love to cuddle up with a Teddy Bear sometimes, eating Doritos and drinking Diet Coke would mean she is aligning to the stereotypical image of a girl. And in this male-oriented world, being a girl means being weak. And that is why, in this patriarchal world, a woman needs to portray herself as a ‘strong’ woman, a woman capable of “surviving” (see, implying you cannot “survive” without taking on pretensions). And what you read is what you are. So I would rather praise Arvind Adiga or Arundhati Roy than Advaita Kala, the debutante author of Almost Single.
It might seem to be a trivial thing, but it is a deep-rooted effect of patriarchy; and it is exactly why patriarchy is still prevalent. How can we expect society (that is, men) to see women as powerfully equal when we ourselves are ashamed, embarrassed and feel sheepish about embracing our true selves? What we are trying to become is pseudo-males, which would obviously be second in position to true males, and the society/patriarchy is thriving on this misconception of ours that being a man is better and a ‘womanly’ image is disparaging. There is nothing wrong with enjoying and reading the books of Paulo Coelho or Ayn Rand, but then neither with Lindsey Kelk’s.
That we are embarrassed at accepting that deep down, within that tom-boyish exterior, or a strong corporate woman attitude, we still harbour ‘girly’ feelings, says a lot about why an egalitarian world is a pipe dream. We need to accept and understand that there is nothing wrong with being girly. Let us embrace our womanhood proudly!
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Chetan Bhagat had no business slut shaming Uorfi Javed or any other woman. If he wants to 'guide' young men in the 'right direction' then he should take accountability for his words.
Chetan Bhagat, one of India’s bestselling authors, thought it was an ingenious idea to slut-shame Uorfi Javed, an Indian actress and influencer, at the Sahitya Aaj Tak literature festival.
“Phone has been a great distraction for the youth, especially the boys, spending hours just watching Instagram Reels. Everyone knows who Uorfi Javed is. What will you do with her photos? Is it coming in your exams or you will go for a job interview and tell the interviewer that you know all her outfits? On one side, there is a youth who is protecting our nation at Kargil and on another side, we have another youth who is seeing Uorfi Javed’s photos hiding in their blankets.”
Uorfi Javed responded with a video on her Instagram stories calling out Bhagat’s bluff. She shared the screenshots of his previous chat conversations with Ira Trivedi, author and yoga instructor, which came to light during the #MeToo movement.
While boys are taught to naturally own the space they enter, girls are taught to give up, to accommodate, to adjust since "it is their primary responsibility to keep families and relations together."
Yesterday, I was watching these 4 young girls around 16 – 17 years old play badminton. They were having fun, goofing around with all 4 of them equally involved in the game.
In some time two of their male friends joined them, and as part of round robin, the 2 boys replaced two of the girls. All good.
As the play continued, I started noticing a change in the way the game was being played. The shuttle was played most of the times between the two boys and there was a sense of competition and aggression brought in. The other 2 girls playing soon starting losing interest in the game as they hardly got any game time. Even if the shuttle came towards them, the boy in their team would move and play that shot. They soon moved to the sidelines as the boys continued to play.
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