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I have often blogged about dealing with mental illness since I have had to interact with one such person myself in the early years of my marriage. I have witnessed the agony of parents of such people and have felt like forgiving them for any misbehavior on their part since they are usually unable to do much to help their wards lead a near normal life. I do not blame them at all but I do feel that counseling may actually help them to deal with the condition.
R .. was diagnosed schizophrenic and had to resign from his job as coin note examiner in the Reserve Bank of India since he could not cope with the stress that the job offered along with a decent pay slip. His father tried everything in his capacity to give him medical treatment. His funds dwindled, gold and silverware pawned or sold but the boy showed no signs of improvement. He could just not be trusted to live on his own in Chennai where he worked. Giving up a lucrative job was the only option left. He was given medicines as prescribed by the doctor but taking him for regular check ups or regulating the dosage as per his condition was not done. Monetary constraints did not permit his parents to buy the full dose prescribed by the doctor and he d go without medicines for several days in a month for the same reason. As was expected his condition deteriorated and nothing could be done.
However there was one thing that his father could have done. No, I do not mean to criticize him since I may have done the same had I been in his place. R .. was offered a job in a hospital canteen. All he had to do was to wipe the plates and cutlery after they were washed and stack them in the racks meant for them. He would be trained for other odd jobs involving more responsibility later. He could naturally not be given any job that required some accountability from day one. Apart from a nominal salary with a decent annual incentive, he would have been entitled to free medical aid as well as pension and other retirement benefits. A father s heart is naturally prejudiced and R s father was no exception. He turned down the offer saying that his son, an ex-bank employee needed to be given a respectable job. Wiping plated used by patients was certainly not what he had in mind for his son. I often wondered if it was wrong on his father s part to decline the best possible offer that could have been made to him.
K .. is a handsome young man in his early thirties diagnosed with a mental disorder. His parents have no financial constraints and are doing their best to deal with his condition. They ve got his condition checked by eminent psychiatrists. The advice they get from them is pretty much the same. He needs to be treated as an out patient for at least six months, if not more, for his condition to improve. His parents find it impractical to wind up their establishment and relocate to a place like Chennai or Bangalore to pursue a treatment that may or may not fetch the desired result. They have resigned to fate and seek solace in spiritual discourses and religious texts.
It is not a pleasant task to offer advice to parents of mentally afflicted children. Each case is different and what may be appropriate for one may not be suitable for another. But as parents one has to take a decision that is in their ward s favor however difficult or distasteful it may be to them. Neither siblings nor relatives can be expected to be as concerned once the parents pass on. It is for this reason that I feel that they ought to be counseled and convinced that harsh decisions have to be taken keeping the long term interest of their child s welfare in mind.
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As parents, we put a piece of our hearts out into this world and into the custody of the teachers at school and tuition and can only hope and pray that they treat them well.
Trigger Warning: This speaks of physical and emotional violence by teachers, caste based abuse, and contains some graphic details, and may be triggering for survivors.
When I was in Grade 10, I flunked my first preliminary examination in Mathematics. My mother was in a panic. An aunt recommended the Maths classes conducted by the Maths sir she knew personally. It was a much sought-after class, one of those classes that you signed up for when you were in the ninth grade itself back then, all those decades ago. My aunt kindly requested him to take me on in the middle of the term, despite my marks in the subject, and he did so as a favour.
Math had always been a nightmare. In retrospect, I wonder why I was always so terrified of math. I’ve concluded it is because I am a head in the cloud person and the rigor of the step by step process in math made me lose track of what needed to be done before I was halfway through. In today’s world, I would have most probably been diagnosed as attention deficit. Back then we had no such definitions, no such categorisations. Back then we were just bright sparks or dim.
When Jaya Bachchan speaks her mind in public she is often accused of being brusque and even abrasive. Can we think of her prodigious talent and all the bitter pills she has had to swallow over the years?
A couple of days ago, a short clip of a 1998 interview of Jaya and Amitabh Bachchan resurfaced on social media. In this episode of the Simi Grewal chat show, at about the 23-minute mark, Jaya lists her husband’s priorities: one, parents, two kids, then wife. Then she corrects herself: his profession – and perhaps someone else – ranks above her as a wife.
Amitabh looks visibly uncomfortable at this unstated but unambiguous reference to his rather well-publicised affair with co-star Rekha back in the day.
Watching the classic film Abhimaan some years ago, one scene really stayed with me. It was something Brajeshwarlal (David’s character) says in troubled tones during the song tere mere milan ki yeh raina. He says something to the effect that Uma (Jaya Bhaduri’s character) is more talented than Subir (Amitabh Bachchan’s character) and that this was a problem since society teaches us that men are superior to women.
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