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Natural isn't sexy on its own, neither is Makeup. How does it matter? What's sexy is individuality. Sexy is YOU.
What is artificial beauty, anyway? Isn’t the whole concept about being you. How does it matter then if your You is different from mine?
I was probably ten when the concept of natural beauty came into my life. My mother was getting ready for an event and my curious self happened to ask my father, why wasn’t he getting ready. It was an earnest question but from the perspective of early 2013, it was rather controversial to expect my father to put on makeup but I say what I think and that’s exactly what I did.
My father by now very well accustomed to my curiosity said something that had a huge impact on me. It was a simple thing. He introduced me to the concept of ‘natural beauty. But the impact was multifaceted. I never made any effort to learn makeup and styling but I also became careless about my health. The line between self-care and self-pampering is very thin. Self-pampering, too, in a way is self-care but that’s exactly where I faltered. I refused to care about my body because I wanted to be natural. What followed was insecurity and lack of self-esteem during the most precious years of my life.
Today, as I look back at 18 when I am at a much better place in life at least, where mindset and perspective are concerned, my thoughts don’t align with my previous self anymore. I no longer think that I am a superior human because I chose to dump makeup when most of my peers experiment with it. On the contrary, I admire how skillful they are at makeup and styling.
Today, I no longer feel the need to compare myself to others. I always knew you cannot put people into boxes because no two people are ever the same but today I practice it. I am not good at makeup but I like skincare. I feel equally comfortable in a kurti and shorts. My choices don’t make me a certain type because I have no type. I am me and that’s my type. If you rather go natural, your choice. If you rather put on makeup, your choice.
That’s what everything boils down to, eventually. How are you morally superior just because you don’t have highlighted hair? If you are dying to get a tattoo but won’t because you rather be natural then it’s you who is letting others’ opinions of yourself affect your choices. The person who got that tattoo they wanted is at the very least aware of their choices and has the guts to stick to them. Now that is admirable. To have the guts to listen to your heart and do whatever you want.
Natural isn’t sexy on its own, neither is Makeup. What’s sexy is individuality. Sexy is YOU.
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If you want to get back to work after a break, here’s the ultimate guide to return to work programs in India from tech, finance or health sectors - for women just like you!
Last week, I was having a conversation with a friend related to personal financial planning and she shared how she had had fleeting thoughts about joining work but she was apprehensive to take the plunge. She was unaware of return to work programs available in India.
She had taken a 3-year long career break due to child care and the disconnect from the job arena that she spoke about is something several women in the same situation will relate to.
More often than not, women take a break from their careers to devote time to their kids because we still do not have a strong eco-system in place that can support new mothers, even though things are gradually changing on this front.
A married woman has to wear a sari, sindoor, mangalsutra, bangles, anklets, and so much more. What do these ornaments have to do with my love, respect, and commitment to my husband?
They: Are you married?
They: But You don’t look like it
Me: (in my Mind) Why should I?
Why is being married not enough for a woman, and she needs to look married too? I am tired of such comments in the nearly four years of being married.
I believe that anything that is forced is not right. I must have a choice. I am a living human, not a puppet. And I am not stopping anyone by not following any tradition. You are free to do whatever you like to do. But do not force others. It’s depressing.