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Motherhood helped me explore my hidden strength and taught me how to handle my weaknesses.
I am a mother of two kids, whom I call my teachers. It may sound weird but despite two professional degrees, the lessons that motherhood taught me are more applicable in professional life. I am a lawyer by profession, writer by hobby, mother by default, wife by happiness, Daughter/daughter-in-law by blessings.
Writing was always an inherent part of me. I don’t remember a moment when writing did not help me survive but simultaneously, I wanted to bring about some change in the society. They say ‘be the change you want to see’ and therefore, post motherhood, I decided to be the change that I wanted the society to implement. Often, when one gets married and is about to have a child, people mostly friends advise you that your career will take a backseat once your children arrive and one must think through the decision of being a mother.
Yes my children are my priority but that does not mean that I will ignore my dreams and forget who I am. Motherhood helped me explore my hidden strength and taught me how to handle my weaknesses. As a human being it is ok to fail because at the end of the day, for my children they need a mom and not an all rounder. My children taught me that it is ok for me to fulfill my hidden desires..be it once again performing in front of a live audience or writing my heart out to posting fancy pictures on social media. Though they are too young to understand what their mom is doing, them staying without me for a few hours itself is a big support for me.
I do not believe in helicopter parenting and I am not raising my children as my old age security. I want my children to be strong individuals, who can stand against any storm in their lives.
Whenever, I was on stage I was often asked one question, for some random reason at those college fashion shows. “Would you select family or career?”. My answer then and now to this question remains the same, My career is something that makes me who I am today and without my family it is next to impossible to survive in my career. So for me both are not an option, its just about striking the right balance. Motherhood has taught me to strike this right balance.
Yes, my life is not perfect, but I do not believe in perfection. I also have my crazy days, when everything goes wrong, there are days and weeks, when things are a mess, because I am a normal human being. For my children to have a normal family life, I need to set an example myself. I cannot expect my children to excel in their profession unless they see the perks of education or having a good profession through me. I cannot expect my children to stay happily with their spouses until and unless they do not see me and their father happily adjusting to things.
That’s my simple ongoing journey of motherhood.
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What I loved was how there is so much in the movie of the SRK we have known, and also a totally new star. The gestures, the smile, the wit and the charisma are all too familiar, but you also witness a rawness, an edginess.
When a movie that got the entire nation in a twist – for the right and wrong reasons – hits the theatres, there is bound to be noise. From ‘I am going to watch it – first day first show’ to ‘Boycott the movie and make it a flop’, social media has been a furore of posts.
Let me get one thing straight here – I did not watch Pathaan to make a statement or to simply rebel as people would put it. I went to watch it for the sheer pleasure of witnessing my favourite superstar in all his glory being what he is best at being – his magnificent self. Because when it comes to screen presence, he burns it, melts it and then resurrects it as well like no other. Because when it comes to style and passion, he owns it like a boss. Because SRK is, in a way, my last connecting point to the girl that I once was. Though I have evolved into so many more things over the years, I don’t think I am ready to let go of that girl fully yet.
There is no elephant in the room really here because it’s a fact that Bollywood has a lot of cleaning up to do. Calling out on all the problematic aspects of the industry is important and in doing that, maintaining objectivity is also equally imperative. I went for Pathaan for entertainment and got more than I had hoped for. It is a clever, slick, witty, brilliantly packaged action movie that delivers what it promises to. Logic definitely goes flying out of the window at times and some scenes will make you go ‘kuch bhi’ , but the screenplay clearly reminds you that you knew all along what you were in for. The action sequences are lavish and someone like me who is not exactly a fan of this genre was also mind blown.
When Jaya Bachchan speaks her mind in public she is often accused of being brusque and even abrasive. Can we think of her prodigious talent and all the bitter pills she has had to swallow over the years?
A couple of days ago, a short clip of a 1998 interview of Jaya and Amitabh Bachchan resurfaced on social media. In this episode of the Simi Grewal chat show, at about the 23-minute mark, Jaya lists her husband’s priorities: one, parents, two kids, then wife. Then she corrects herself: his profession – and perhaps someone else – ranks above her as a wife.
Amitabh looks visibly uncomfortable at this unstated but unambiguous reference to his rather well-publicised affair with co-star Rekha back in the day.
Watching the classic film Abhimaan some years ago, one scene really stayed with me. It was something Brajeshwarlal (David’s character) says in troubled tones during the song tere mere milan ki yeh raina. He says something to the effect that Uma (Jaya Bhaduri’s character) is more talented than Subir (Amitabh Bachchan’s character) and that this was a problem since society teaches us that men are superior to women.
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