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The author examines the significance of moving out of your comfort zone and defeating your fears.
Fear holds us back more often than it should. Fear restricts us and stops us from achieving things which we are perfectly capable of achieving. We have learnt that it is safer to fit into the mould of known emotions, known territory, known work/job criterion. We have learnt that trying something new or choosing something different is risky.
‘Playing safe’ is traditionally what we do, despite the innumerable examples that we see, read and hear about doing otherwise. We choose to obliterate the methodology of people who have stepped out of the safe boundaries despite their fears and apprehensions. We categorize them as ‘brave’ or ‘lucky’. We choose to revere them and say – “Wow, I wish I could do that !” Well, why can’t you? Who stops you from achieving what you ‘want’ to achieve? Who is holding you back?
I think successful people are not fearless or unafraid. I think successful people choose to keep going, despite their fears. I think success depends upon how well one is aware of one’s fears. It also depends upon how well one understands these fears and deals with them. Our fears are created by our own minds and our perceived limitations. Our fears could also have been given to us by our parents, teachers and caregivers. Despite all of that, as adults we owe it to ourselves to delve into our minds and deal with those fears.
It is alright to know that there is a monster under the bed. Being aware of the monster under the bed, allows us to prepare ourselves to deal with that very monster under the bed, and identical ones that might appear through the night. Being aware of our fears allows us to prepare ourselves to deal with these fears and other identical ones that might appear as life goes by. Awareness allows us the following choices 1) deal with the fears 2) let go of the fears and 3) sometimes just make peace with them.
Awareness is the most powerful tool we possess, towards making a change.
In the words of the wise – “A further sign of health is that we don’t become undone by fear and trembling, but we take it as a message that it’s time to stop struggling and look directly at what’s threatening us. ” – Pema Chödrön
So, It is alright to have fears. It is alright to be aware of your fears. It is alright to choose to deal with your fears. It is alright to let go of your fears. It is also alright to make peace with your fears.
What is not alright is-To continue feeding your fears, to continue staying frozen by your fears, to continue walking a few steps behind everyone else, due to your fears and to continue staying still because of your fears.
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Life Coach, Online Consultant Counsellor, Clinical Hypnotherapist, Past Life Regression Therapist & a trainer for emotional and professional growth, Rachna is based in Cambridgeshire, United Kingdom. Her articles are available on her blog, for everyone to read more...
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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