Read on how to enrich your life by purpose, i.e. to find depth and, a reason to get out of bed each morning, your own Ikigai.
The author dwells upon why women end up leaving their careers post marriage and child-birth. Lack of family support, particularly from the husband leads to women fleeing the work-force?
“What will you do by taking up a job?”, asked a husband to his wife. “Someone please ask him what he does in his office?”, a wife murmured.
“Handle home!!, handle kids!!”, as if ladies brought them in their dowry.
Even your parents would force you to live in such marriages which are suffocating. What to do then, a big Black Hole rests in your heart and you certainly are slowly becoming NUMB. Right?
Why is it so, that men want their wives to sacrifice their career for the sake of house, kids, for him, for his parents and blah blah blah. Why? This unanswerable question would jolt you every time you would think of this and again you would fall into depression. You wonder if it is your mistake that you married a man whom you thought to be supportive.
Hold On! Take a Deep Breath. We understand, you do not owe any explanation to anyone, but just snap that man out of your head if not life at least, as you only live once. You must have done numerous mistakes in your exams which might have given you negative marking and suddenly you realized, “Fish, I knew the answer, I am so stupid!!” It is the same, trust me.
All women out there are victims of patriarchy in some way or the other. Innumerable sacrifices make a good mother. Really? “Shut up” is the only word for such people who think like that. Stand up for yourself and If you cannot, just do not stop trying and do not kill yourself everyday for not getting your career back.
In PGIMER, Community Medicine department did a research on Post Natal Depression which proved that career deprived mothers tend to suffer from depression later. It was also found that 228 ladies out of 1028 in their post natal depression period were forcibly asked to leave their jobs to handle their kids as their husbands did not want to leave their jobs for baby-sitting. Department categorized these ladies into CDMD (Career Deprived Motherhood Depression). In this category they found that ladies became victim of depression due to their job loss and most importantly they are made to feel like a non paid maid of the house who is not even allowed to complain. Most of these ladies were highly placed in their careers before marriage says, the report of Community Medicine department.
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M a journalist, nature lover and a writer from Chandigarh. Writes on health, crime, social
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