Do Opposites Attract Only In science, Or Even In Love?

Posted: February 16, 2016

So – is the statement ‘opposites attract’ true only in the realm of science? Or is this truism really true of love?

“Opposites attract is more a scientific principle than a romantic one” – Minh Tan

 

Let us look at these two statements:

  • Saying 1: Opposites Attract.
  • Saying 2: Birds of a feather flock together.

I am sure most of us have heard these sayings over and over again while growing up. However, they convey diametrically opposite meanings. Logically speaking, only one of these sayings can be true, as they negate each other. But love and friendships are rarely about logic. I have found that both of these contradictory statements can be true — with the very same person.

In my teenage years, I believed in the saying that opposites attract in relationships. This belief was a result of growing up with parents with extremely different personalities and a heavy dose of books & Bollywood movies, where the good girl inevitably falls for the bad guy.

However, if I took a look at some of my closest friends, I realized that more often than not, it is the similarity that got us together and kept us going. And, what is love, if not an extension of friendship?

Over the years, I have come to understand that contradictions exist, and it is not always one or the other. My husband and I have extremely different personalities, but our cultural beliefs, and value systems are very similar. On the whole, while we are more different than we are similar, it is our similarities that we bond over, and our differences make an average day interesting.

Like they say “The happiest couples never have the same character. They just have the best understanding of their differences”.

I would love to hear from YOU. Have you experienced anything different? In your relationships, and in friendships, do you feel that you have bonded over your similarities? Or have you been attracted to each other because of your differences?

Published earlier here.

Image source: couple in cafe by Shutterstock.

In a past life, equipped with an MBA in Finance, Shantala worked as an equity

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  1. I would say it depends on what is expected out of a relationship. It might work either way, if the foundation is strong.

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