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A girl who refuses to be girly, and enjoys life in her own way: The chronicles of a tomboy
Hello! And welcome to the ‘Chronicles of a Tomboy.’ Lo & Behold! My name can be quite misleading and I like it that way. ‘Misleading’ is quite a girly terminology. Right? Wrong! Men love misleading too and tomboys love it even more.
I have been following this website for a long time now! A lot is said about women, their independence, their careers, freedoms, roles, etc. A lot of women who are ‘independent, modernistic, thinkers, free-individuals’ have been portrayed, their life-achievements highlighted. A lot of articles request ‘traditional women’ to come out of their cocoons and hail the freedom that today’s women ought to enjoy.
But wait a second! There’ s one category that seems to be missing! And please note, she’s not concerned about traditions and rituals v/s the modernity and individuality battlefield. She giggles when so-called ‘modern women’ throw ‘selfies’ all around the social web, as much as she feels jitters when she sees saree clad aunties discussing ‘how to get today’s kids disciplined.’
This woman is the ‘Tomboy.’ She loves sports, wears shabby clothes and is not bothered about it. She uses slang as much as she abuses. She’s not very eloquent or soft-mannered. You dare her, and she will throw a dare back at you. You corner her and she would punch you right in the face! She hates it when you call her a ‘girl’, but beware you talk or misbehave with women and you are out of the game forever!
Yes- she’s the tomboy. She’s neither flirtatious nor is she rebellious. Contrary to what some people think, ‘being a tomboy’ is not about being rebellious. She’s just the way she is. She fields in some of your demands, while she ensures she keeps her identity deep-rooted in the ground. She is a daughter (the one who worries your mom about how she will get married, if you are a guy that is! Or the one who worries your dad about how ‘loose brained’ she is if you are a girl, that is!)
She’s easily recognizable. Here’s what it takes to be a tom-boy.
– She HATES shopping. Yes, she does!
– She prefers hanging out with guys often than your girl friends. Reasons are obvious, aren’t they?
– If there is ever a situation, where there’s a boy, a girl and a tom-boy, remember – the tom-boy is the toughest person out there
– She likes her hair short. Long hair.. no way! And if you insist, don’t ask her to take care of it. She’s going to have bad hair day 365 days.
– She will prefer a Rugby challenge to a Ruby
– And most likely, she’s going to be hot, but a little differently! (Well, the image here will summarize it for you!)
Now that’s easy, isn’t it! So why am I here, you might ask? I am here to take you through a journey of one such TOMBOY! And you guessed it right. I am here to take you through my chronicles!
Be ready to be mused, amused and bemused, through a series of articles that attempts to capture many ‘unheard tomboy tales!’
Signing off for now. Watch this space for more.
Pic credit: Sparknotes
Deepika Gumaste has been working as a brand builder @ Text100 Global Communications for the last 4 years. Hailing from the 'city of dreams- Mumbai', Deepika is a girl with a tomboyish touch. She loves drama read more...
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