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As soon as girls hit a certain age, queries about marriage start pouring in. In these times, isn't the parent who supports your dreams cool?
As soon as girls hit a certain age, queries about marriage start pouring in. In these times, isn’t the parent who supports your dreams cool?
Instance-1
Mother- Can’t you save some money? I know you have just started earning but that doesn’t mean that you will spend it anyway. Me- Okay Aai. Sorry! Anonymous (female)- Yes, she should start saving for her marriage. Mother- Why marriage? Marriage is not the only motive in her life.
Instance-2
Anonymous (female)- So, what did you buy this Dhanteras? Mother- I bought a ring and necklace for my daughter. Anonymous (female)- Oh nice! Is the wedding preparation on? Mother- Of course not. She loves wearing accessories.
Instance-3
In a wedding
Anonymous (male)- Nice wedding! You have a daughter and two sons. So, who is first in line for the wedding bells? Your daughter, right? Mother- No. Her two elder brothers are first in line. (And we started discussing our outfits for the same)
Instance-4
In a clinic
Doctor- So, are you done with your graduation? What are you doing now? Me- Yes. I got myself recruited in a business news channel. Doctor (to my mother)- Good. I think you should start thinking about her marriage. Mother- (smiling) No, it’s too early. She should concentrate on her career first.
These instances make me love my mother again and again. After such replies, the expression on the interrogator’s face is worth watching, while I barely managed to control my laughter when they fell into a deep well of awkwardness. (What a comic scene!)
Why is the world so interested in when girls are getting married? Don’t worry, these girls’ parents (or maybe the girls themselves) will invite you to have ‘free ka khana’ whenever they do get married. And they will also have an aesthetic hall for you to click pictures to post on your social media profiles. (Happy?)
I will not reiterate the mentality of all these because it is all well known, even though these thoughts are redundant. But such replies by your loved ones do give you the confidence to fight negative vibes. By being born and brought up in such an environment, you understand the importance of being independent in the early stages of your life itself. Not just for girls but for boys too.
But there’s a con for such an environment. I am always bombarded with questions (or thoughts) from my mother like:
But these cons are overpowered by the pros in the real sense. The above list of instances is not a comprehensive one. But I just hope that the above mentioned anonymous people will try their level best to ask or react credibly.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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