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Prashila Naik writes in defense of a teetotaler and wonders why people pick on you just because you don't like alcohol.
Prashila Naik writes in defense of teetotalers and wonders at the reactions leveled at them for simply not wanting to drink alcohol.
“Oh, you don’t drink.” “Aren’t you having beer?” “Juice, is that all?” Do these sentences ring a bell in your head, or heart, or err, probably just ears? If they did, then my friend, you belong to the sect of ‘the Teetotalers’, much like yours truly over here. The ‘clan’ that has over the years seen a much varying, much discussed, much debated, much applauded, much criticized, and many other ‘muches’ infused demographic. I can still remember yesteryear movies where the ‘drinking’ woman was almost always a ‘vamp’, a lady villain, as I used to think of them, for the general mayhem they caused in the good heroine’s life. And now in this decade and in this age, I can’t help but feel like Simone de Beauvoir reincarnated, every time a ‘Rani’ whooshes onto a stage even if it’s in a movie, sloshed in the comfort of her skin, delightfully unaware of the world around her; or a five star hotel proudly displays its Friday night crowd puller as a ‘drinks on the house for ladies’ attraction. Indeed, we have come a long way. But then, what about the subsection of this world that has moved along this way, but only on a different path?
Every time I have to explain myself as to why “I don’t drink”, or every time someone volunteers to get the ‘coy’ me drunk and wasted, I find myself mentally snapping at how I could have handled this situation better. The most natural response is defense, and defense is never completely calculated. So, there are times when one stumbles with their responses, paving way for a discussion that is nothing less of redundant. And every time someone proffers their worldly wisdom in the matter of all forms alcohol, I find myself cringing at how I confess that I have actually ‘tried’ it, and all that. What I would really like to say is that I don’t drink because I don’t want to. The world is full of directions, but do we really see each one of us giving equal attention to every one of them? Similarly the world is full of beverages, both hold and cold. Do all of us drink tea or coffee or orange juice? Then, why this sudden insistence on drinking alcohol?
What a person eats or drinks or for that matters prefers to eat or drink, need I even say, are all purely personal choices? Some of us just happen to be averse to adopting habits that need to be adopted because their presence in this world cannot be ignored. If that sentence sounds complicated that is because the thought behind it is clearly simple. Alcohol consumption, much like smoking or substance consumption, is a matter of personal choice. If we want to move towards a world where people who indulge in it are not judged, we also need to in parallel move towards a world where they are judged for NOT indulging in them.
So, the next time I am in a pub or a lounge or a regular restaurant, sipping my cranberry juice or virgin pina colada, I’d definitely enjoy my drink better without having to explain things that go beyond their taste.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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