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Nothing a woman is or does seems to be right in a misogynist world that finds faults with anything and everything... can she just be considered human?
A woman’s dilemmas
If I’m fat, I am a cow or a pig.
If I’m thin, I am a skeleton or a stick.
If I’m too fair, I am a white ghost.
If I’m too dark, I am an ugly monster.
If I’m tall, I won’t get a husband easily.
If I’m short, I won’t get a husband easily.
If I wear a saree, I am way too traditional.
If I wear a mini skirt, I am way too modern.
If I wear a burkha, I am way too backward.
If I wear a bikini, I am way too forward.
If I speak softly, I am a gutless wimp.
If I speak loudly, I am a boisterous tomboy.
If I am reserved in my talk, I am a stuck-up bitch.
If I mingle freely with everyone, I have no moral ethic.
If I am talking with my female friends, I am a gossip.
If I am talking with my male friends, I am a wanton tart.
If I want to study more, I’m too much into education.
If I quit my job for any reason, I’ve wasted my education.
If I’m single, why am I not married?
If I’m married, when will I have children?
If I have a son, when will I try for a daughter?
If I have a daughter, when will I try for a son?
If I have two sons, do I regret not having a ghar ki Laxmi?
If I have two daughters, do I regret not having a ghar ka Chirag?
If I love to cook, I’m building a negative stereotype of women.
If I hate to cook, I’m not woman enough.
If I’m working, I’ve abandoned my family for fiscal fortune.
If I’m a stay-at-home mother, I’ve sacrificed my dreams for dreary drudgery.
If I’m given a promotion, I’m buttering up the boss.
If I leave office on time, I’m not working enough.
No matter what I am,
No matter what I do,
I am questioned, I am thwarted.
No matter how much I wear,
No matter how much I bear,
I am scorned, I am doubted.
How long will this go on?
How long will I not be free?
I want to live my life my way,
But you keep on tying me.
Dear World, I am a human first,
So a human, please let me be.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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