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I came across a video which left me speechless. In this video, a middle-aged woman was thrashing two people with her slipper, aka the chappal.
Recently I came across a video on Twitter. It left me speechless. In this video, a middle-aged woman was thrashing two people with her slipper, aka the chappal.
A couple of things in this video made me cringe.
A teen girl and a boy were being beaten by the girl’s mother. Their fault – they were celebrating Valentine’s Day. The mother stormed to the terrace. As the boy fled despite being grabbed by the woman, the poor girl was left alone to face her mother’s fury.
The people who recorded this video must have been watching the events from the opposite terrace. The recording was accompanied by their raucous laughter and snide remarks about how the girl “deserved” it.
The Twitter thread was filled with hate comments targeting the girl, love, and love marriage. And there were quite a few who found this entertaining.
“Aunty ji ne beti ke Valentine’s Day plan par paani fer diya!” Aunty ji ruined her daughter’s Valentine’s Day plan!
“Maaja aaya!” Entertaining!
“Idk what is wrong with me, I’m sick or what, but this makes me so fucking happyyyy”
I have no comments on these trolls. They are not worth my time. My concern revolves around the mother and daughter. I understand the mother’s desire to “protect” her daughter, but her approach left me baffled.
I showed the video to my daughters too.
This is a quick summary of our discussion –
I am certain the mother means well and is concerned about her daughter. I do not doubt that at all. But what I am worried about here is her style of parenting and approach.
What is the message being conveyed here?
Will the daughter grow up believing violence is acceptable? Can the mother and daughter ever have complete faith in each other?
Will the daughter be submissive if tomorrow her partner treats her the same way? Will she ever have the confidence to share her worst experiences with her mother?
Being a mother of two teenage daughters, I know how challenging this phase of life is. We want to protect them from all evil, and ensure their safety and happiness at all times. I believe our role is to be facilitators, and not dictators.
I want my children to make mistakes and learn from them.
As parents, we have to have faith in ourselves, in our children, and our parenting. Doubting them or not trusting them weakens this precious relationship.
Talking to our children is essential, but even more important is listening. Listening to what they are saying, what they want to say, and what they might hesitate in sharing with us.
I don’t like the concept of “perfect parents.” I, for one, don’t ever want to be a perfect parent.
Furthermore, I just want to be the parent who lets her child fly and does not clip her wings. I want my girls to fly, fall, get up, and fly again… hoping they never forget that their parents are by their side always, no matter what.
Image Source: Still from Maanmarziyan, edited on CanvaPro
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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