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Marriage has existed in and around us for like forever now, and despite the fact that most of us — the young generation, are highly motivated to fall in love, but we are equally reluctant to avoid the concept of marriage.
After we have successfully managed to rant about hunger, dowry, poverty, war, rape, foeticide and the ‘unholy existence of a third gender” (or no gender), we come across the most sought after but hardly comprehended social taboo — marriage.
Men and women both avoid getting hitched because of dependency issues, ironic, isn’t it?
Speaking on behalf of women specifically, some of them will avoid getting married because of traditional taboos like dowry, foeticide and an ambience of unwanted masculinity. Others will avoid so because they are busy breaking stereotypes – “Not having to cook for a man.”
We have most commonly heard, let’s say around ninety percent of the female population around us say – “I need to study to be financially independent so that I don’t have to sit home and cook for a husband or clean his dishes.”
The rest of the ten percent of the female population firmly believes in the fact that work and household are equally challenging, and cooking is an expression of love and not of slavery! That ten percent of the female population is blessed to be married into a less dramatic household.
Life after marriage is not as scary as having to prepare for it, and this is the part where most of the female population give up. This is the end of love and the beginning of a life full of responsibilities.
This pressure builds around the other person in marriage too, but most of the responsibilities fall on women!
Have women exaggerated the concept of having to cook for the family after marriage? Do they hate it? It’s not their job to do it. Certainly, a man can cook better than his better-half, but that’s not his burden to bear.
Another example could be of a woman successfully juggling between her work and home, providing for the family with both financial and emotional stability. Between all this juggling, there is little time left to rekindle the feeling of love and passion.
Marriage kills love.
This is why marriage is the new taboo — an unnecessary one. Have we managed to reverse this?
Yes, almost.
How?
By focusing on the, “getting to know someone before committing” part. So, now you can comfortably know someone, fall in love with them and then happily cook for your family if you want to without resentment.
Irrespective of the fact that some of you—the golden girls, might end up happily ever after, there are many unfortunate ones, who choose voluntarily to be unfortunate because a part of them is reluctant to leave them even though they love to cook.
Image source: Still from the film, Baishe Srabon, edited on CanvaPro
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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