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We aren't supposed to have a certain type of body, skin colour or height because that's the rule of nature or at least genetics.
Humans for ages have been judged on the basis of social standards of “beauty”. While it’s true for people regardless of their gender, race and nationality, I’ll mostly focus on young Indian women here.
The idea of diversity in a country which not only practices but also celebrates the very foundation of, lacks in the terms of social judgement of “looks”.
There’s a certain colour, size or shape your body must possess to be qualified as what our society considers to be “beautiful”. These expectations and ideals can vary across nations and from one individual to another.
These gross judgemental idealistic expectations for women (as being focused on this article; not indicative of insensitivity towards other members of our society) are not only thrown around by men, but also by women themselves.
Shockingly (also not), from a very young age we are made aware of our features which are desirable and also the ones which aren’t.
We aren’t only expected to accept these flaws and grow with them, but also to not raise concerns over these judgemental ideals proposed day-to-day by other people.
As if these features are staples of looks, talents and intelligence all at once. It’s degrading to be judged by features of our body we have been made so conscious about, to feel guilty about it.
Why? Because one was born with it. As if having a pretty face or desirable body is a trophy you are born with and can flaunt around for the rest of your life.
Everyone has insecurities. Some people’s insecurities aren’t as evident as others. That doesn’t mean that they don’t exist.
If we aren’t spoon-fed with the very ideals which have been passed down from generations, will these insecurities be any or very different, or dare I say non-existent?
This is what is so wrong about these “idealistic expectations” of beauty.
These expectations are not features you can acquire, but can practically only aim for. We aren’t supposed to have a certain type of body, skin colour or height because that’s the rule of nature or at least genetics.
Variation amongst sexually reproducing individuals (as in us, humans) is inevitable.
Variation is varying degrees of differences from one individual to another. These “differences” are supposed to be celebrated and not mourned about.
Nobody has the right to make you feel bad about what you stand for. Beauty (noun) (beau·ty|\ ˈbyü-tēis) is the quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit.
It’s not a condition, but a quality. Embrace the qualities which sets you apart from others and make you.
Don’t be ashamed of your differences just because it’s hard for others to accept or appreciate. Your differences matter, your body matters, your beauty matters.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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