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After a woman is married does anyone give any though to what she wants or doesn't? Why is she looked at as a mere baby-making machine without any dreams?
After a woman is married does anyone give any though to what she wants or doesn’t? Why is she looked at as a mere baby-making machine without any dreams?
“Listen, Veena, has your daughter, Priya, had her periods yet?”
Veena looked at her 75 year-old mother-in-law, who seemed to be very eager to know if her daughter had had her periods yet. Priya had gotten married a few months ago and owing to the lockdown, she was unable to move in with her husband who lived abroad.
“Yes!” Veena answered curtly to end the topic there.
And this is just one instance! Sadly, this is just another way to ask if a lady is pregnant! I am sure married women face these awkward conversations almost all the time!
“When do you plan to have a child?”
“Any good news?”
“You know, that girl who got married right after you is pregnant…”
“We are longing to see a child!”
“Will we be grandparents soon?”
These statements are endless! But does anyone give a thought about what the woman who hears this goes through? There’s so much of stress and pressure!
When does she get to live her her dreams? Or even get to do the things she wants, like maybe spend quality time with her husband? And maybe, focus on her own career?
When will the society stop asking such foolish questions? And you know what the worst bit is? Men never find themselves in such awkward positions. Nobody ever asks them anything. It is always the woman who hears about having a child, like she’s not entitled for anything else.
Despite coming so far, in terms of technology and development, it is saddening to know that we are still backward in may ways.
Picture credits: Still from Bollywood movie 2 States
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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