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An angry man is always an angry man. He's not PMSing or bossy or arrogant. Why do moods exist for men as if they are normal and as a flaw for a woman?
An angry man is always an angry man. He’s not PMSing or bossy or arrogant. Why do moods exist for men as if they are normal and as a flaw for a woman?
Can I ask you a question?
You sure can.
What’s the boiling point of water?
It’s 100-degree Celsius I suppose.
What’s the boiling point of blood?
Why do you ask such an absurd question?
Well, I’ve always had hemoglobin low.
So, I wonder that’s where all my blood goes.
It boils & evaporates in the thin air
Every time I hear a girl is mentioned.
A girl… is always praised for being obedient, docile, beautiful, lovely, chaste, gorgeous, responsible, humble, homely, classy, vivacious, fair, skinny, thoughtful, well-behaved, sexy, emotional.
What’s wrong with that?
Oh… still counting….very well then
The same girl… is otherwise called flirty, slutty, bossy, high-maintenance, bitchy, needy, vain, dumb, fat, famished, hormonal, PMSing, hysterical, illogical, irrational, pushy, sassy, shrill.
Well… that’s not all women…
Some do deserve it, you say.
Do you remember, so many times,
you forget to attach these adjectives to men?
An angry man is always an angry man.
He’s not PMSing or bossy or arrogant.
A romantic man is a romantic man.
He’s not needy, clingy or possessive.
Why do moods exist for men as if they are normal
and as a flaw for a woman?
Why can’t a woman live without adjectives
as they can’t live without a man’s surname?
You’re just overthinking…
I sure am…
But why shouldn’t I?
For every morning I wake up
these are checklists I carry along
That of a good daughter, a dutiful wife,
a responsible mother, an ambitious employee,
a careful woman.
The checklists that are never ticked off
Till we die.
So I escape, run far away
I never talk to people, never read the news,
never see the comments, never care for views.
All I want for my entertainment are fairy tales
& unrealistic rom-coms
For that’s the only place for girls with “flaws”
You can be goofy, arrogant, bossy, fat, dark,
lonely but miraculously, you will always end up
being loved for who you are.
So, my dear doctor,
Don’t prescribe me drugs.
Suggest me some good old movies.
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First published here.
I am an introvert. The writer in me is my extrovert alter ego. A BFTech from NIFT and MBA from XIMB, currently I hold a full-time job with a startup as a marketing manager. read more...
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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