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An apology is not a smooth sailing boat to wash out all highs of life, but still, it takes you ashore, where you feel calm and all is right in the end.
I usually say that I am SORRY when I tell others their hard truth in my existence but end up hurting them. I say it because I know the scars don’t leave easy and I do not want to hurt anybody over the span of life. I say it so many times that it has become an instant bounce back word for me. Some other times saying sorry seems appropriate when the other person is wrong and insults me just to put me wrong. I say it in order to leave him/her no chance to do so. At times it is to boost other’s self-esteem as it gives them the benefit of thinking that they were right even if I know they weren’t. The more we say the word, the more other people think that we are insensible, insensitive, and imprudent. But is saying SORRY so harmful for one’s personality that the moment you utter it out you are automatically reduced to size zero in your character and self-esteem. Your presence goes unnoticed and nobody respects you after that.
Acceptance of being wrong in a particular situation is difficult because everybody is right in their perspective. Still, the discretion to know the boundaries of right and wrong is expected only from a human’s brain. Some feel and say it, others say but never feel, yet others neither say nor feel it; such is the character of this word. It is often misused when one causes a major irreparable loss to another and try to escape the situation. In that light, he/she actually wants to escape and hide from oneself. At times you have to be courageous enough to bear the trauma of your personality resizing after you say the word SORRY.
Committing a mistake and accepting it is far more difficult than its mere thoughtful allusion. Furthermore, it is heroic to extend your limited being to make repairs amongst despairs.
But, one who says sorry has to be prepared to be placed wrong and accept insults too. He is visualised as one who can be subjected to nuisance in many kinds of situations. He needs to be slow in counteractions as he does not afford to be wrong anymore. So, one who says sorry can never afford to make even the smallest mistakes in the future because if he does, there is no stance to be sorry again.
There can be times when someone suffers due to our unintentional actions. Sometimes thinking of their well-being causes trouble or damage to them. Thinking that they will accept you without your feeling sorry is impossible, but at the same time, we think that it is not for us to be sorry since our intentions were not bad. They may know that you feel sorry for them but they want you to say it out loud. This situation may be a big trial but there is no harm in saying what you feel. If it soothes anybody’s bruises, it won’t cost you much. An apology is not a smooth sailing boat to wash out all highs of life, but still, it takes you ashore, where you feel calm and all is right in the end.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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