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No, it’s not a field trip to some exciting place to visit or learn something new. It’s a trip to that lonely, deserted island where the only accompany of yours is the ‘guilt’.
Guilt is a feeling of worry or unhappiness that you have because you have done something wrong or think that you have done something wrong.
Most women are caught up in the grip of this ghost. Blame the ever demanding circumstances or the preoccupied notions of the society. Whatever it is, you are the victim. You are the one who suffers. So, be aware of this before it attacks you.
Most of the time, most of our decisions and actions are based on ‘What others will think and say’ (Log kya kahenge) factor. If you go according to this thought process, then also you won’t be able to please the people around you and they won’t stop chasing you. It’s an endless trap. If you dare not to give an ear to others talk, move ahead in the direction of your dreams, then the ‘guilt factor’ raises its ugly head. Somewhere in your heart, you constantly keep on questioning yourself, am I doing the right thing? Should I have opted for the other option? What if I’ve done it the other way?
For example, this is common for all the mothers, whether they are homemakers or office goers. If they stay at home, they feel guilty of not justifying their education, their dreams, their ambitions. If they are career oriented, they feel guilty of not paying enough attention to their kids and family.
Do you claim yourself guilty? If you are living with this guilt factor, make yourself aware of its consequences also. It affects both psychologically and physiologically.
It’s been rightly said that, “Guilt is a useless feeling. It’s never enough to make you change direction–only enough to make you useless. Guilt is a destructive and ultimately pointless emotion.”
Its the judgement of the people around you that affects you. Stop judging and stop being judged. Stop being guilty. Self accusations and self condemnations will lead you nowhere. People will come and go and drop plenty of advice at your doorstep, but do whatever makes you happy. Because at the end, that matters the most. Let’s put an end to the guilt trip.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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