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He is always screaming ‘my ill fate’, and asking me to leave the house. He is now convinced that if I leave this world, all his blockages will disappear, and he can live happily ever after.
“Oh!” He checks the calendar and says, “It’s Saturday! And you are bound to throw tantrums. I don’t understand, why don’t you let me live in peace!”
Yes, it’s a Saturday and I yearn for a break or a vacation. Is it unfair for a wife to expect a short trip, a loving touch, and a healthy conversation from her husband?
It’s my rumination in my head. I can comprehend how the emotionally neglected girl trapped inside often come out and distort adult expectations and bitter reality. Most of the time I manage to send her back. But there are times I simply cannot. Never mind…
He has always been superstitious.
However, whenever I enlist practical solutions to his problems, he flares at me. Now, he is a saint who doesn’t physically abuse his wife. Nonetheless, when I speak my mind, he finds it offensive.
I am trying to create fissures between him and his dear parents. Hence, it is I who provoke him to be corrupt and monstrous.
I should understand that he is ageing. He will get jittery. Moreover, he has stress at work. And, what do I do at home? Simply eat and sleep. Unfortunately, my weight, just like my parents, supports his views.
My friend advised me not to surrender my rights as a wife. I should make him remember that it was he who had willingly married me. And so, he should provide for me. He should also look after my desires and wishes.
Well… maybe… I laugh heartily. He is always under financial stress. And, it should naturally come upon me that I should go on sacrificing as much as I can to fit in the demands of his parents and child. More than that, I even cringe at asking him for the bare minimum.
How much can, or should, I stoop just for the sake of ‘roti, kapda aur makan’? Delayed gratification doesn’t work always. And, I am fed up with this.
I remember, one of my university friends narrating how her parents had planned to take her for vacations before her marriage. I sighed. Although I went to places, my parents mostly thought my husband would take me out. I cannot deny we hadn’t travelled, but it was mostly undertaken to save his image.
Hence, in the name of ‘destiny’, ‘Saturdays-Sundays’, and ‘somebody has done black magic’, I digest innumerable lies daily.
Either I should ignore them (for these are common in every household, and these will continue) or take steps for a legal separation. He is such an open-minded person! He encourages me to step out so that I can experience the brutal world and return to his shelter.
With emotionally unsupportive parents and a zero bank balance, I do know not what and how to do. I hear ‘work upon yourself’ as an ideal solution to any problem, but in this thoroughly toxic environment, I just cannot. I am very low on mental health.
Furthermore, I am having nightmares, and although I close my eyes, I know how I sleep. I cannot eat properly lest he starts taunting me. Furthermore, I am always feeling feverish. I am moving with a persistent head and backache. I live in complete terror.
When the cup is completely empty, you need an external source to refill it and then start pouring from it. And, I am searching for that external source!
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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