Check out 16 Return-To-Work Programs In India For Ambitious Women Like You!
Photo by Debabrata Hazra on Unsplash
The most precious right of a person is freedom. Dependency on others creates a situation of exploitation. In each work, we always wish to be independent. But, is this true in case of marriage?
Parents spend huge money in the name of marriage, specially bride side. Doesn’t bride parents know that they should not spend more money on marriage? Of course, they know. It’s a kind of fear regarding this issue. Their mind thinks about daughter’s happiness. They think if they do not perform marriage lavishly, their daughter might face difficulties in her in laws home. But for how many days we have to live in fear?
Education, food, clothing, shelter and some things are basic requirements. So, they are provided by parents, fine. But why marriage? Why can’t bride and groom spend their earned money for marriage. Let them decide whether their marriage should be simple, moderate or lavish according to their budget. Marrying couple have to take this step boldly and their respective parents should support this decision.
In society, this kind of decision is not at all supported. First thing, our society is still a patrarchial. Second, youngsters are demotivated like, this decision is against the culture and tradition.Third, inferiority in women in discussing the issues when the topic of marriage arrives.
Necessity of Aatmanirbhar Vivaha
It\’s the time to change and there were many social reasons for the previous lifestyle. Past is past, now the youngsters should make a bold decision and they should be role model to others.
Aatmanirbhar Vivah concept may look small, may be ignored or people may respond negatively. But definitely, the society gets more stable.
Aatmanirbharta is not only for country. It’s for every home, every individual!
read more...
This post has published with none or minimal editorial intervention. Women's Web is an open platform that publishes a diversity of views, individual posts do not necessarily represent the platform's views and opinions at all times.
Stay updated with our Weekly Newsletter or Daily Summary - or both!
Neena was the sole caregiver of Amma and though one would think that Amma was dependent on her, Neena felt otherwise.
Neena inhaled the aroma that emanated from the pan and took a deep breath. The aroma of cumin interspersed with butter transported her back to the modest kitchen in her native village. She could picture her father standing in the kitchen wearing his white crisp kurta as he made delectable concoctions for his only daughter.
Neena grew up in a home where both her parents worked together in tandem to keep the house up and running. She had a blissful childhood in her modest two-room house. The house was small but every nook and cranny gave her memories of a lifetime. Neena’s young heart imagined that her life would follow the same cheerful course. But how wrong she was!
When she was sixteen, the catastrophic clutches of destiny snatched away her parents. They passed away in a road accident and Neena was devastated. Relatives thronged her now gloomy house and soon it was decided that she should be married off.
Women today don’t want to be in a partnership that complicates their lives further. They need an equal partner with whom they can figure out life as a team, playing by each other’s strengths.
We all are familiar with that one annoying aunty who is more interested in our marital status than in the dessert counter at a wedding. But these aunties have somehow become obsolete now. Now they are replaced by men we have in our lives. Friends, family, and even work colleagues. It’s the men who are worried about why we are not saying yes to one among their clans. What is wrong with us? Aren’t we scared of dying alone? Like them?
A recent interaction with a guy friend of mine turned sour when he lectured me about how I would regret not getting married at the right time. He lectured that every event in our lives needs to be completed within a certain timeframe set by society else we are doomed. I wasn’t angry. I was just disappointed to realize that annoying aunties are rapidly doubling in our society. And they don’t just appear at weddings or family functions anymore. They are everywhere. They are the real pandemic.
Let’s examine this a little closer.
Please enter your email address