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Sugar-coated Misogyny, Anyone?
Here\’s a snapshot of the latest Bollywood romcom – Tu Jhoothi, Main Makkar.
Handsome, rich, pampered boy – running a breakup business on the sly, meets pretty young thing, who is obviously a boozing, philandering, commitment-phobic, ambitious, career-minded creature, who doesn\’t believe in \”saving herself for the right man\”. Stereotyping, anyone?
She is interested in \”time-pass\”, he is smitten. He chases her till she relents and agrees to commit to him.
Cut to his large extended family that literally suffocates her with truckloads of love and too much attention.
She wants space. He can\’t live without his brood.
They break up. End of story? Not if it\’s a Luv Ranjan film. He of misogynistic potboilers like Pyaar ka Punchnaama and Sony ke Titu ki Tweety (hope I got that right).
But let\’s come back to this film, that\’s being touted as his most liberal minded(!)
The femme fatale still has feelings for her ditched lover, and wants him to stop her from going abroad to chase her career dreams. They talk things out, with buckets of tears and accusations.
And no prizes for guessing how things pan out. She agrees to marry the family, the entire lot.
They love her to death, prepare her tiffin-box, send her off to work, spoil her when she\’s pregnant. Everyone happy.
Happy ending? Not for me.
What about the girl\’s wish to have her own home? Her space, her life? Her in-laws love her (we are reminded repeatedly), but what if she wants breathing space, a place to spread her wings away from the family? What if she doesn\’t want kids, or a conventional married life?
In the end, it is a compromise that she makes, for the sake of her \”true love\”. The man gets away with a little heartbreak, and some admonishing from his brood. Win-win for the hero!
Things never change, do they?
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If a woman insists on her prospective groom earning enough to keep her comfortable, she is not being “lazy”. She is just being practical, just like men!
When an actress described women as “lazy” because they choose not to have careers and insist on only considering prospective grooms who earn a lot, many jumped to her defence.
Many men (and women) shared stories about how “choosy” women have now become.
One wrote in a now-deleted post that when they were looking for a bride for her brother, the eligible women all laid down impossible conditions – they wanted the groom to be not more than 3 years older than them, to earn at least 50k per month, and to agree to live in an independent flat.
Ms. Kulkarni, please don’t apologise ‘IF’ you think you hurt women. Apologise because you got your facts wrong. Apologise for making sexual harassment a casual joke.
If Sonali Kulkarni’s speech on most modern Indian women being lazy left me shocked and enraged, her apology post left me deeply saddened.
I’d shared my thoughts on her problematic speech in an earlier article. So, I’ll share why I felt Kulkarni’s apology post was more damaging than her speech.
If her speech made her an overnight hero among MRAs, sexists, and people who were awed by her dramatic words, then her apology post made her a legendary saint.
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