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Sugar-coated Misogyny, Anyone?
Here\’s a snapshot of the latest Bollywood romcom – Tu Jhoothi, Main Makkar.
Handsome, rich, pampered boy – running a breakup business on the sly, meets pretty young thing, who is obviously a boozing, philandering, commitment-phobic, ambitious, career-minded creature, who doesn\’t believe in \”saving herself for the right man\”. Stereotyping, anyone?
She is interested in \”time-pass\”, he is smitten. He chases her till she relents and agrees to commit to him.
Cut to his large extended family that literally suffocates her with truckloads of love and too much attention.
She wants space. He can\’t live without his brood.
They break up. End of story? Not if it\’s a Luv Ranjan film. He of misogynistic potboilers like Pyaar ka Punchnaama and Sony ke Titu ki Tweety (hope I got that right).
But let\’s come back to this film, that\’s being touted as his most liberal minded(!)
The femme fatale still has feelings for her ditched lover, and wants him to stop her from going abroad to chase her career dreams. They talk things out, with buckets of tears and accusations.
And no prizes for guessing how things pan out. She agrees to marry the family, the entire lot.
They love her to death, prepare her tiffin-box, send her off to work, spoil her when she\’s pregnant. Everyone happy.
Happy ending? Not for me.
What about the girl\’s wish to have her own home? Her space, her life? Her in-laws love her (we are reminded repeatedly), but what if she wants breathing space, a place to spread her wings away from the family? What if she doesn\’t want kids, or a conventional married life?
In the end, it is a compromise that she makes, for the sake of her \”true love\”. The man gets away with a little heartbreak, and some admonishing from his brood. Win-win for the hero!
Things never change, do they?
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Children should be taught to aspire to be successful, but success doesn't have to mean an IIT admission only!
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Dr Nalini Parthasarathi, 79, based in Puducherry has dedicated 30 years of her life caring for people suffering from hemophilia.
It is amazing when a person turns personal adversity into a calling, and extends empathy to make a significant impact in the lives of other people. This has been the life’s journey of Dr Nalini Parthasarathi.
April 17 is World Hemophilia Day. Dr Nalini Parthasarathi, 79, based in Puducherry has dedicated 30 years of her life caring for people suffering from hemophilia. She was honoured with the Padma Shri in 2023.
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