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Support from a wife is highly under-appreciated and underrated, and given our patriarchal setup husband appreciating the wife is a matter of ridicule or criticism.
My husband is a very calm and sorted person who has always been respectful towards me in the 20 years of our married life. I have always heard the remark, “You have a great married life since your husband is so calm and nice.”
Rarely have I heard, including in my own family, that our marriage is successful because I am equally good. It’s as if its taken for granted that the wife should be good and needs no appreciation.
If my husband is worth appreciation, so am I..
When cricketer Virat Kohli has had bad days on field, both before and after his marriage, trolls would directly put the blame on his partner Anushka Sharma! Why just that..haven’t we seen that anything bad happens in a family post marriage, the daughter-in-law is labeled as “panauti” or bad omen?! On the other hand, when Virat Kohli scores well or is in great form no one appreciates Anushka. When something good happens in a family, no one would give credit to the daughter-in-law for that!
It’s good to see Virat Kohli acknowledging the silent support of his wife and dedicating her his victory. When you are down and out, even that support makes you strong. I don’t understand why people have problem with men praising and acknowledging their wife, but despite all the backlash he continues to acknowledge her.
Even in the normal scenario, including me, when the husband goes out or travels for his work; he is at peace because he know the wife is handling the home, children, her work seamlessly. There are many days when the wife is not well, may be having a bad day, exhausted handling the children (of various stages), had an awful day at work but she handles it all with elan. When someone, including the husband, calls her up, she simply states, “I am fine. All good.”
Support is highly under-appreciated and underrated, and given our patriarchal setup husband appreciating the wife is a matter of ridicule or criticism. When the entire world is against you and criticizing you, on your good and bad days when the silent support gives you the strength to fight again, you should always appreciate and acknowledge that support.
Appreciating your own wife doesn’t make you “joru ka ghulam” or less manly rather it makes you the perfect partner, the man whom every woman would appreciate. It shows the secure, confident man of great character.
Be like him..not the trolls..
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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