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Alia and Shafali Shah's film Darlings is a journey of resisting and flouting patriarchy in the process of achieving individuality.
Trigger Warning: This deals with domestic violence and may be triggering to survivors.
Darling is a word which is used affectionately to address one’s beloved while they are in love with each other. Badru was called darling by her abusive and alcoholic husband Humza while she was head over heels in love with him and owed blind allegiance to him enduring all domestic abuse he hurled upon her. However as the film progresses we see Badru’s metamorphosis and how she becomes her own darling by realizing that she is worthy of love and respect, which she has to herself shower upon her.
*Few Spoilers Alert
Suffer, Survive and Sacrifice are three things the construct of patriarchal society expect from women.
Naive Badru conforms to such norms initially, even though her mother Shamshunissa repeatedly tries to enlighten her to rise and raise her voice against her husband. But Badru at that time was unaware of the concept of individual identity, and therefore she goes out of her way to defend her husband, who cajoles her how much he loves her every morning after thrashing her every night.
Badru lives in an illusion, and is easily persuaded by the sugar coated words of her husband that one day he will come clean leaving alcohol after their child is born. Eventually she realizes that it’s all a pretence, and it’s a never ending cycle in which she is trapped as a prey of her predator husband.
Motherhood is an agent that often plays a vital role in the empowerment of women. For Badru the death of her daughter in the hands of her abusive husband brings about a transformation in her. It leads to the rebirth of a new Badru who is fierce and vengeful and won’t resist anymore. Along with her mother, she seeks justice for the inhuman treatment meted out to her by devising ways to punish her husband and earn respect for herself.
The mother who already detested her daughter’s toxic marriage, and the newly self-awakened daughter are together indeed successful in executing their plan along with the help of their accomplice Zulfi. But amidst this chaos we also see how both the women attain financial self-sufficiency by gradually establishing their food delivery business.
The story of Darlings isn’t new; it’s the everyday story of many Indian houses where men wield their hegemonic power of patriarchy over the women of their homes. Yet what makes Darlings extraordinary is the way these two women Shamsu and Badru stand for each other and triumph over all the battles beset on their path together.
Unlike Amrita’s mother in Thappad who convinces her daughter to return back to her abusive husband, Shamsu herself being a victim of a broken marriage, tries to convince her daughter to free herself from the shackles of her barbaric husband. Initially she fails, but eventually she is successful in making Badru realize that she has an identity apart from the identity her marriage vested upon her.
While in the opening scene we see Badru getting tired of waiting for her lover and would be husband Humza outside the cinema hall, as she can’t afford to watch the film alone without his company (symbolizing her dependency on her husband), the ending scene depicts Badru going to the cinema hall and enjoying the film all by herself, which symbolizes Badru’s evolution into an independent woman who is now capable of conquering the whole world.
The film therefore has a circular narrative where the entire focus is on Badru throughout the narrative depicting her journey of emotional growth (individuality) that indeed is inspiring for all the subdued women across the country to bravely flout the patriarchy engulfing them and rise.
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People say that women are the greatest enemies of women. I vehemently disagree. It is the patriarchal mindset that makes women believe in the wrong ideology.
The entire world celebrates International Women’s Day on March 8, 2024. It should be a joyful day, but unfortunately, not all women are entitled to this privilege, as violence against women is at its peak. The experience of oppression pushes many women to choose freedom. As far as patriotism is concerned, feminism is not a cup of tea in this society.
What happens when a woman decides to stand up for herself? Does this world easily accept the decisions of women in this society? What inspires them to be free of the clutches of the oppression that women have faced for ages? Most of the time, women do not get the chance to decide for themselves. Their lives are always at the mercy of someone, which can be their parents, siblings, husband, or children.
In some cases, women do not feel the need to make any decisions. They are taught to obey the patriarchal system, which makes them believe that they are right. In my family, I was never taught to make decisions on my own. It was always my parents who bought dresses and all that I needed.
14 years after her last feature film Dhobi Ghat, storyteller extraordinaire comes up with her new film, Laapataa Ladies, a must watch.
*Some spoilers alert*
Every religion around the world dictates terms to women. The onus is always on women to be ‘modest’ and cover their faces and bodies so men can’t be “tempted”, rather than on men to keep their eyes where they belong and behave like civilized beings. So much so that even rape has been excused on the grounds of women eating chowmein or ‘men will be men’. I think the best Hindi movie retort to this unwanted advice on ‘akeli ladki khuli tijori ki tarah hoti hai’ (an alone woman is like an open jewellery box) came from Geet in Jab We Met – Kya aap gyan dene ke paise lete hain kyonki chillar nahin hain mere paas.
The premise of Laapataa Ladies is beautifully simple – two brides clad in the ghunghat that covers their identity get mixed up on a train. Within this Russian Doll, you get a comedy of errors, a story of getting lost, a commentary on patriarchy’s attitude towards women, a mystery, and a tale of finding oneself, all in one. Done with a mostly light touch that has you laughing and nodding along.
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