You Cook, But I Will Eat From Outside

Not everyone is born to become a Masterchef, some people of course by God's grace, become one. So what if her cooking is average or she needs time...

Not everyone is born to become a Masterchef, some people of course by God’s grace, become one. So what if her cooking is average or she needs time…

“Thanks to the online recipes, cooking blogs, youtube videos which helped me with great tips …not able to watch my favourite TV shows or sit with kids and play” a housewife complained during a session.

As we all know India is a complicated country, we are born with an assumption that women have to cook, clean,  sweep and keep things tidy and be organized. A job you really can’t tell a man as our society will mock if he quits his job and becomes a stay at home dad.

Sadly if a working woman doesn’t become a certified culinary expert she will have to go through all the criticisms in the family,  nagging and even divorce from some extent.

Even if she loves going out to work or climbing a ladder to be a good professional, there will be no support or career advancement.  She still has to cook for the entire family regardless of being in a nuclear or a joint family system.

Even girls under ten are re-routed to the kitchen from the study room and playgrounds.  Believe it or not, some of these girls could have been sports champions if they got a chance to play with their friends.

From a very tender age, the girl has no time to develop her skills,  talents or even study hard to become a professional.  On one side the family yells at her to finish the housework and on the other side, she will be left with siblings to take care of.

Recently I read an article, according to UNICEF girls between 5 and 14 years spend 40 per cent time doing household jobs. In some rural areas, they have to collect water and firewood.

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We talk about educating girls, women empowerment but still in our society there are women who waste all their time and energy cooking for the family due to cultural priorities and social obligations.

Most of the families in rural areas can’t afford to keep a maid for help. These housewives are forced to be in the kitchen for long hours, have no time to socialize, have friends, spend time with their parents or develop any skills. They end up with poor eating habits as they will never get time to sit or enjoy the cooked food with the family.  They will be in a rush to finish the housework which is a never-ending task.

On some days the wife has to eat alone when the husband goes out for dinner with his friends. Why do only men have that choice?

On the other side of the coin. I appreciate some ladies who started cooking blogs, youtube videos, some of them entered the Asia book of records for cooking in 30 minutes.

The pandemic too gave them a chance to show interesting ideas and hacks on cooking.

I am sure these ladies by now must have been the goddess in the house.

Not everyone is born to become a Masterchef, some of the course by God’s grace. So what if her cooking is average or she needs time. We must still learn to appreciate the hard work she has put in and stop criticizing. 

Image source:  A still from The Great Indian Kitchen




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