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In my younger days, I sort of believed that my mother would be responsible for my wrongdoings and would comply with every instruction as I hated anyone admonishing my mother for my faults. But, as time went by...
In my younger days, I sort of believed that my mother would be responsible for my wrongdoings and would comply with every instruction as I hated anyone admonishing my mother for my faults. But, as time went by…
I wanted to proclaim that I was no influencer.
From my childhood, I was used to hearing my mother chide me for any mistake committed, stating she would be held responsible for all my wrongdoing. It seemed this was the norm as the mothers of a household were supposed to be the torchbearers for their offspring.
In the younger days, I sort of believed this and would comply with every instruction as I hated anyone admonishing my mother for my faults. But, as time went by, I began to reason out the logic behind this. Wasn’t the father equally responsible, if at all others could be blamed for an individual’s mistakes?
Our patriarchal society had entrusted the mother as the primary caretaker (although her name didn’t figure when accolades were won) and she had the onus of moulding “perfect” individuals.
The world has developed beyond measure but we have still not liberated the woman from the shackles of endless responsibilities. She has to bear the brunt of society not only for her trivial errors but also for those of the children she has painstakingly delivered. Is it not enough that she as a “glorified servant” of the household look after each of their needs?
We, as mothers, as women of a new era, can only guide, mentor and tutor our children. We are no influencers. In this technology-driven era, when surrounded by advice from numerous sources, ranging from Youtube influencers to bloggers to man-made Gods, the decision-makers are these youngsters.
Maternal advice either falls on deaf ears or are scoffed at. We are ridiculed by stating a hundred new theories that they have learned (ranging from gentle parenting to being a helicopter mom). Little do they realise that our experience and the umbilical cord bond is beyond all these theories.
We fail miserably only when we are despised, disrespected and belittled. But, perhaps this will change when the realisation dawns. Till then I plead that don’t hold moms as the influencers as we can only “take them to the water, not make them drink”.
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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