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For a long time I have kept my rage in check in return for peace. This was a mistake, as I now realise - I'm speaking up now.
For a long time I have kept my rage in check in return for peace. This was a mistake, as I now realise – I’m speaking up now.
Here is a checklist of my crimes: too argumentative. doesn’t adjust throws tantrums locks herself behind doors, disrespectful. doesn’t accept apologies. doesn’t forgive.
they shine on my skin like badges each a strike through my ‘good name.’ each a reminder, to me of something won, rather than something lost.
I made a mistake once — I traded my rage for ‘peace’ but all I got were scars that ran so deep, they stole from me who I was. I am something new now. I am fury.
I scream. Politeness and silence will get me nowhere. Have got me nowhere. And so, I draw the boundaries with my voice. Thick, red, bleeding lines that throb with pain, and truth.
I accept the slurs shrew, characterless drama queen, attention seeker. It is better than being nothing. I do not delude myself anymore.
I am not the good Indian woman. I refuse to be.
Image source: a still from the film Naam Shabana
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UP Boards Topper Prachi Nigam was trolled on social media for her facial hair; our obsession with appearance is harsh on young minds.
Prachi Nigam’s photo has been doing the rounds on social media for the right reasons. Well, scratch that- I wish the above statement were true. This 15-year-old girl should ideally be revelling in her spectacular achievement of scoring a whopping 98.05% and topping her tenth-grade boards. But oddly enough, along with her marks, it’s something else that garners more attention – her facial hair.
While the trolls are driving themselves giddy by mocking this girl who hasn’t even completed her school yet, the ones who are taking her side are going one step ahead – they are sharing her photoshopped pictures, sans the facial hair, looking nothing less than a celebrity with captions saying – “Prachi Nigam, ten years later”.
Doctors have already diagnosed her with PCOD in their comments, based on photographic evidence. While we have names for people shamed for their weight – body shaming, for their skin colour- racism, for their age- age shaming, for being a female- sexism, this category of shaming where one faces criticism for their appearance has no name. With that, it also has zero shame attached to it.
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