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We talk about money but not about the rights. We talk about wearing western clothes but can't talk about women's bodily needs.
We talk about money but not about the rights. We talk about wearing western clothes but can’t talk about women’s bodily needs.
Why is it that no matter what I have achieved in life, my end goal is considered to be marriage?
And why do all my accomplishments fall short before my accomplishing the marital status? incomplete
Why does all my money and my assets stop being important if I don’t have a husband asset yet?
And why does my smart brain cease to be valued if I dare to raise my voice and speak my mind against the problems in and with marriages?
How come all the thoughts and talks about my equality become immaterial the day I actually pinpoint flaws in my better half?
And how is it that while I am always asked to support fellow women, it isn’t applicable to helping them out of their troubled married life? Simply because that would mean provoking them in the wrong way!
How does my gender decide whether I abuse or drink when we know it is bad for the society in general and discourage it?
Why do we worship and celebrate our goddesses who defeated evil demons while asking our girls to bear the atrocities and adjust in peace?
And why do we feed little girls during Navratri and shower them with gifts but men are allowed to hurl abuses in their name and defame them all the other times?
How am I called disrespectful for not listening to my parents’ marriage advice when I support them both morally and financially all my life?
Yes, this is how comfortable we are with being hypocrites. Living a double-faced life with our heads held high, we focus on minting money while quashing millions of dreams and lives each passing day.
Being this so-called ‘modern’ society, we talk about money but not about the rights. We talk about wearing western clothes but can’t talk about women’s bodily needs. While we praise our neighbours on their big, fat weddings, we don’t question the life within the marriage or offer any help.
Does all this ring a bell or two? Well, it is high time we at least made an attempt to becoming truly modern and uncovering our masks to step into reality. After all, how long will we live this double-faced life of a proud Indian who doesn’t understand the true meaning of freedom but will hoist the flag with pride every year?
Picture credits: Still from Bollywood movie Piku
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Neena was the sole caregiver of Amma and though one would think that Amma was dependent on her, Neena felt otherwise.
Neena inhaled the aroma that emanated from the pan and took a deep breath. The aroma of cumin interspersed with butter transported her back to the modest kitchen in her native village. She could picture her father standing in the kitchen wearing his white crisp kurta as he made delectable concoctions for his only daughter.
Neena grew up in a home where both her parents worked together in tandem to keep the house up and running. She had a blissful childhood in her modest two-room house. The house was small but every nook and cranny gave her memories of a lifetime. Neena’s young heart imagined that her life would follow the same cheerful course. But how wrong she was!
When she was sixteen, the catastrophic clutches of destiny snatched away her parents. They passed away in a road accident and Neena was devastated. Relatives thronged her now gloomy house and soon it was decided that she should be married off.
Women today don’t want to be in a partnership that complicates their lives further. They need an equal partner with whom they can figure out life as a team, playing by each other’s strengths.
We all are familiar with that one annoying aunty who is more interested in our marital status than in the dessert counter at a wedding. But these aunties have somehow become obsolete now. Now they are replaced by men we have in our lives. Friends, family, and even work colleagues. It’s the men who are worried about why we are not saying yes to one among their clans. What is wrong with us? Aren’t we scared of dying alone? Like them?
A recent interaction with a guy friend of mine turned sour when he lectured me about how I would regret not getting married at the right time. He lectured that every event in our lives needs to be completed within a certain timeframe set by society else we are doomed. I wasn’t angry. I was just disappointed to realize that annoying aunties are rapidly doubling in our society. And they don’t just appear at weddings or family functions anymore. They are everywhere. They are the real pandemic.
Let’s examine this a little closer.
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