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Are we done with making friends before we're adults? Here's why the poet says it is better when you're older when you pick your friends.
Are we done with making friends before we’re adults? Here’s why the poet says it is better when you’re older when you pick your friends.
You are in your twenties/thirties/xties And you think you are stuck with the friends you made When you were younger and happier I want you to know and understand You are dead wrong There is no end date to which you can make new friends
Yes, it’s harder but it isn’t impossible In fact, it’s better this way You’re at the right age for forging real connections For you know who you are and what you want
Unlike in the past, you don’t have to conform You can choose people you actually want to hang with Without worrying about fitting in Without caring about what the world thinks of you Isn’t that worth the fear of reaching out to strangers? Or putting in time and patience for friendship to blossom?
In the end, the choice is in your hands Of making friends who totally get you Or letting the status quo take over So that you never dare to expand your circle
First published here.
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After some time, unable to bear it any longer, I signed off from the home lunch. My MIL must've heaved a sigh of relief because my portion of groceries would be saved!
Until I married I had never imagined even in my wildest dreams that my diet/ food intake could assume such alarming proportions and affect conjugal harmony. Having stepped into my marital home I discovered to my bewilderment that the four female inmates were frugal eaters. My spouse and his dad ate moderately well.
The family faced a dilemma: my requirement surpassed those of the ladies but most certainly couldn’t be clubbed with the men’s. Why? Simply because they were MEN. “How could you even think of it”? They snubbed me often. (Incidentally, the parents-in-law refused to accept contributions from either of us). They probably expected me to be demure and submissive since I was ‘‘eating off” their money.
So each morning as I left for work I was served three chapattis with a few spoonfuls of curry. Can you believe this curry catered to the ladies’ lunch the previous day, and dinner for all six inmates? The horror of horrors, it crept into my lunch box too. The chapattis made at the crack of dawn were fine till breakfast but by lunch, they turned leathery; the accompanying curry insipid, tasteless.
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Both the movies have about a 90% liking rate on IMDB/Rotten Tomatoes. Both are touted to ‘sensitively’ portray the taboo topics that seem to be mostly hidden underneath a layer of banana peels – dangerous to even tread nearby.
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“When you develop too many co-dependencies, you lose boundaries. Having boundaries is both better for you and the people you interact with. See, people don’t want to walk all over you, but if you create a dynamic that allows for it, most people can’t help themselves. It’s human nature.”
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