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Forget about laws. Let's tap into our consciousness and stop the dowry system.
It is a shame that in today’s world of novel technologies, some people still agree on giving dowry. That day, a friend of mine said it is a tradition to give dowry and it is ok. Another relative of mine is getting married and the guy’s family is asking for dowry, and this relative of mine is saying yes. I am just disgusted.
We keep reading how women are burnt by their in-laws or tortured and abused because their families could not give the massive dowry the in-laws wanted. Child brides attract less dowry so more than 700 million women are married off early. Girls are given less education as their families save the money for dowry. Girl infants are abandoned as parents feel they cannot give dowry. Depending on the amount of money you can pay for dowry, you will get a suitor according to it. So if you want a guy who is living in USA, be prepared to fish out massive amounts of dowries. Parents beg and are covered in debt to pay dowries.
Yet there are those educated fools who will say that you should give dowry. Why not spend the money in educating the girl and letting her work and earn money? Is she not a human being? If the groom needs money to keep the bride; then might as well the bride be at home with her parents than live under oppression at a stranger’s house.
It is not ok. Parents cannot treat their girls as burdens. We educate ourselves and yet we cannot get out of this shackles of dowry. We seriously need to rise up and say no to dowry. If a guy or his family wants dowry, we should just say no. Forget about laws. Let’s tap into our consciousness and stop the dowry system. It is a tradition that should be banned and stopped immediately. What is wrong with our generation? Why cant we say no to dowry? I just don’t understand. It’s not like the girl will not get any guy to marry her. Please say no to dowry.
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Why is the Social Media trend of young mothers of boys captioning their parenting video “Dear future Daughter-in-Law, you are welcome” deeply problematic and disturbing to me as a young mother of a girl?
I have recently come across a trend on social media started by young mothers of boys who share videos where they teach their sons to be sensitive and understanding and also make them actively participate in household chores.
However, the problematic part of this trend is that such reels or videos are almost always captioned, “To my future daughter-in-law, you are welcome.” I know your intentions are positive, but I would like to point out how you are failing the very purpose you wanted to accomplish by captioning the videos like this.
I know you are hurt—perhaps by a domestic household that lacks empathy, by a partner who either is emotionally unavailable, is a man-child adding to your burden of parenting instead of sharing it, or who is simply backed by overprotective and abusive in-laws who do not understand the tiring journey of a working woman left without any rest as doing the household chores timely is her responsibility only.
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