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A woman is facing issues with her manager who seems to have taken a grudge against her going as far as humiliating her. How do you deal with this situation?
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I recently started working at an MNC as a part of a ten-member team. I mostly deal with the foreign language aspect of it and am also helping develop guidelines for the content we review.
When I began working, my manager was pretty decent to us, as team. But in time, she started behaving in a very moody and unprofessional way. Her behaviour became even worse when a new member joined a team. Since then, the manager has been quite rude and extremely unprofessional. She speaks down to us while also taunting us about our speed.
We are being given unattainable targets, and when they aren’t completed, we get reprimanded like school children. If a task takes too long to be completed owing to its difficulty, she will often humiliate us in front of the team. All this behaviour of hers is only directed towards four people from the team.
Meanwhile, I did speak to the higher manager during a monthly meet but that still hasn’t helped.
I was hoping to get some suggestions from you.
– Ashlesha Kamra, Language Trainer at an MNC
There are several reasons as to why your manager is behaving the way she is right now which seems to be in contrast with how she was when you first joined the team. To me, right away it seems that she is under tremendous pressure from different quarters – could be both personal and professional.
When women are not able to say ‘No’ to requirements on both fronts they come under undue stress which makes them behave in an aggressive manner or even passively in some cases. It is probable that she has had some massive change on the personal front for which she was not prepared and professionally – her KRAs could be more loaded with inadequate resources. Having said all this let us see how you can handle it in a way which can be a win-win for both of you.
Firstly I would suggest that you gather data on instances (approximately 4-5) where you feel the behaviour impacts the inter personal relationship between you and her and therefore your deliverables.
Then fix up a one to one meeting with her – you can give the context that you would like to discuss something which is affecting your work performance.
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