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Misogyny is ingrained in the Indian society wherein entitled husbands feel that they have the right to tell their wives what to do and what not to do. It is time this stops!
I am an independent woman. My husband has always encouraged me to work. Even when I stayed at home to take care of my son, I would work from home.
I always felt that education ought to be utilized. But, then I looked around and saw the plight of other women. These were the women, whose husbands did not allow them to work.
Ziva told me that her husband has strictly said that since she has a kid, she cannot work. Her degree in Psychology cannot be used now. She has to cook and clean and give her husband hot meals.
Taniya’s husband expects a variety of meals. Lunch and dinner cannot have the same menu. No one cares about her wishes or her education.
Kavita’s husband will let Kavita do yoga, get the gas cylinder on a scooter when its empty. She has to cook fresh and hot meals as soon as he gets home, but she cannot work.
Piyali’s husband has told her he will give her everything she wishes for, but she cannot work.
Deeksha is a mother to twins. She has to give her husband hot tea as soon as he comes home from work. She cannot even do a part time job like conducting tuition classes, as there is no one (not even her husband) to take care of her kids for a few hours.
Sunita had got a job at a school and all her husband had to do was drop the kid at the preschool in the morning. He felt he could not take care of the kid for even an hour. So, she could not work.
Indrani had to leave her job as her husband had to shift to another country every few years or so.
Reena had to give up her job, as she has to cook and clean for her mother-in-law and her husband.
These girls come from well to do, educated families and their husbands are working in multi-national companies. They feel they are treating their wives very nicely. Why can’t they hire a cook instead of marrying a girl and ruining her life? It just costs Rs 3000 a month to hire a cook.
Why can’t a man learn to do housework or take care of his kids? After marriage, a girl’s only job is not to serve her husband hot meals. What did the mother-in-law do before she brought home a daughter-in-law? Why can’t she do her work on her own? Why does the woman always have to ask the man for money? What about her wishes? How will she utilize her education for which her parents spent their hard-earned money? The microwave does a goob job of heating up food. We don’t need a woman for that.
Let us stop marrying these men. Let all of us work and utilize our education and skills.
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Neena was the sole caregiver of Amma and though one would think that Amma was dependent on her, Neena felt otherwise.
Neena inhaled the aroma that emanated from the pan and took a deep breath. The aroma of cumin interspersed with butter transported her back to the modest kitchen in her native village. She could picture her father standing in the kitchen wearing his white crisp kurta as he made delectable concoctions for his only daughter.
Neena grew up in a home where both her parents worked together in tandem to keep the house up and running. She had a blissful childhood in her modest two-room house. The house was small but every nook and cranny gave her memories of a lifetime. Neena’s young heart imagined that her life would follow the same cheerful course. But how wrong she was!
When she was sixteen, the catastrophic clutches of destiny snatched away her parents. They passed away in a road accident and Neena was devastated. Relatives thronged her now gloomy house and soon it was decided that she should be married off.
Women today don’t want to be in a partnership that complicates their lives further. They need an equal partner with whom they can figure out life as a team, playing by each other’s strengths.
We all are familiar with that one annoying aunty who is more interested in our marital status than in the dessert counter at a wedding. But these aunties have somehow become obsolete now. Now they are replaced by men we have in our lives. Friends, family, and even work colleagues. It’s the men who are worried about why we are not saying yes to one among their clans. What is wrong with us? Aren’t we scared of dying alone? Like them?
A recent interaction with a guy friend of mine turned sour when he lectured me about how I would regret not getting married at the right time. He lectured that every event in our lives needs to be completed within a certain timeframe set by society else we are doomed. I wasn’t angry. I was just disappointed to realize that annoying aunties are rapidly doubling in our society. And they don’t just appear at weddings or family functions anymore. They are everywhere. They are the real pandemic.
Let’s examine this a little closer.
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