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Laxmi Agarwal is so much more than just what we know her as - a gritty acid attack survivor. Here we meet her as a mom, speaking about her dreams for her daughter.
Laxmi Agarwal is so much more than just what we know her as – a gritty acid attack survivor. Here we meet her as a mom, speaking about her dreams for her daughter.
I’m very fortunate to have met the real Chapaak Girl last week. Laxmi Agarwal, the acid attack survivor.
Acid attacks. Yes I’m sure that you would have have read or heard some gory stories about it. Often on social media platforms and at times in national dailies. But let’s keep that aside for the for sometime, and talk about something more beautiful in their lives.
There is much more to a survivor; she can be a daughter, a sister, a wife and a mother too. Yes Laxmi is a mother to a very beautiful daughter… She calls her “She”, a very unique name but with a lot of meaning in it. Why She? Because it is about the grit and determination of a lady who refused to get suppressed by her tormentors. She, because she is a ray of hope, a light at the end of the tunnel. She, because she is everything to her.
In our country we say Naari is Shakti, and She is a synonym of the naari version of shakti. Yes, She is her shakti, which gives her courage to fight against all the odds that life throws at her.
When asked her, about her dreams for her daughter, she in a very nonchalant way said that she doesn’t have any dreams for her. Figuring out the question on my face, she said that “it would be unfair to burden my child with my dreams. My job is to teach them how to fly, and then let them decide how high they want to fly, or nestle in a cozy nest.
How true are her words, parents put so much of stress on their child these days that at times they break. You have to just teach your child to fly and let them decide if they want to soar like an eagle or be like a dove, both are equally beautiful, equally majestic and definitely better than broken eggs.
Being a Mother myself, I can very well comprehend her thoughts. In today’s day and age, we have reduced to being rats who are always running after some reward. Do you remember the last time you took your child to a park and played with them? Achieving targets was a goal, but now it has become a way of life. Rather, we treat our kids as a means to achieve goals , goals which perhaps we have dreamt about but could not fulfill. This hectic life has upset the social fabric of society.
Don’t treat your kids like your dream catchers; rather, sit with them, spend time with them, figure out what they want to do in life. Once they set their aim, all that as a parents we have to do is to support them unconditionally. Yes there will be troubles and there will be solutions, and these are the signs that life is there. I’m a Mom; I don’t know everything, but I’m learning, and I have learnt that let’s not have ‘broken eggs’.
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