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Guilt Trip – Stop Before It’s Too Late

No, it’s not a field trip to some exciting place to visit or learn something new. It’s a trip to that lonely, deserted island where the only accompany of yours is the ‘guilt’.

No, it’s not a field trip to some exciting place to visit or learn something new. It’s a trip to that lonely, deserted island where the only accompany of yours is the ‘guilt’.

Guilt is a feeling of worry or unhappiness that you have because you have done something wrong or think that you have done something wrong.

Most women are caught up in the grip of this ghost. Blame the ever demanding circumstances or the preoccupied notions of the society. Whatever it is, you are the victim. You are the one who suffers. So, be aware of this before it attacks you.

Most of the time, most of our decisions and actions are based on ‘What others will think and say’ (Log kya kahenge) factor. If you go according to this thought process, then also you won’t be able to please the people around you and they won’t stop chasing you. It’s an endless trap. If you dare not to give an ear to others talk, move ahead in the direction of your dreams, then the ‘guilt factor’ raises its ugly head. Somewhere in your heart, you constantly keep on questioning yourself, am I doing the right thing? Should I have opted for the other option? What if I’ve done it the other way?

For example, this is common for all the mothers, whether they are homemakers or office goers. If they stay at home, they feel guilty of not justifying their education, their dreams, their ambitions. If they are career oriented, they feel guilty of not paying enough attention to their kids and family.

Do you claim yourself guilty? If you are living with this guilt factor, make yourself aware of its consequences also. It affects both psychologically and physiologically.

  1. Guilt Makes You Paranoid
  2. Guilt Can Sabotage Your success.
  3. Guilt leaves you with feelings of worthlessness or inferiority
  4. The physiological effects include insomnia and physical pain.

It’s been rightly said that, “Guilt is a useless feeling. It’s never enough to make you change direction–only enough to make you useless. Guilt is a destructive and ultimately pointless emotion.”

Its the judgement of the people around you that affects you. Stop judging and stop being judged. Stop being guilty. Self accusations and self condemnations will lead you nowhere. People will come and go and drop plenty of advice at your doorstep, but do whatever makes you happy. Because at the end, that matters the most. Let’s put an end to the guilt trip.

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