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Allow her...let her... Enough of such language that pleads. Women, rise up your arms and reach for the sky. Dare to reach beyond what you think you can!
Allow her…let her… Enough of such language that pleads. Women, rise up your arms and reach for the sky. Dare to reach beyond what you think you can!
Am I asking for too much? Is it too difficult to accept the fact that a woman should live her life in her own terms? Is it not doable that she makes her own choices and everyone accepts it with much needed poise and dignity?
No, I am not even talking here about the big things in life you see. I am trying to tap the mundane, just the basic, something that is routine, her right. Is that still very difficult?
The bare, naked truth is, it is difficult. Difficult not in one, but on various levels. ‘Allowing’ women to have their way is a farce, an illusion that we all live with. Let’s face it.
Where do I possibly begin? Because as I write this, everywhere around me, I just see women who are being pinned down for their choices. What they want to study, where they want to study, and topping it all if at all they should study? Yes, you heard it right. And then, what she wears and why she wears what she wears. And then whom she loves and why does she love. If she is working, then why is she working? And, if she isn’t, then why isn’t she working. And then it’s kind of deluge after marriage – if she is breathing, why is she breathing, at all?? Huh….
When a girl is born, she is born with some choices. She has every right to make it work in her own way, on her own terms. We all are masters of our own destinies. Building it bit by bit and hiking in their way of life. Why do we need to prove ourselves at every single point? We don’t. And we shouldn’t in fact.
Why do we always need permission to make our choices? Or should I say why we should anyone seek permission at all? Again an emphatic NO. Why are we judged for being what we are? Isn’t it that every individual has the right to live the way they want? Why we are answerable for the path we choose to walk on? We shouldn’t answer any such questions!
What we should actually do is walk the path that paves the way for the others too. Light a lamp of hope, I call it. Why has sacrifice, compromise, and making adjustments at the cost of our self esteem and self respect become a way? Again… Stand up, don’t let this happen. Live and love for yourself, before you do it for anyone else.
It is a conditioned society that we live in. Why this conditioning is so pervasive for women, always? Why squash all her dreams and aspiration under the burden of norms and rules? It is an undeniable fact that women form the basic fulcrum of the society. Or should I say the universe, the mere mankind. She is the birth giver, the nurturer. And sadly, the one who gives you life is not allowed to live. Several are there who die every moment. They are crucified under the pretext of ‘false manhood’. They are lynched because they are ‘thinkers’. They are ripped for being “outrageous”, and they are murdered for just ‘living’. I say, think, act, be different, cut the norms and live.
Breathe, and breathe fearlessly you girl. Dance, and dance like noone is watching you. Sing, and sing as if that’s the last song of your life. Walk, and walk chin up like a tigress does, and dream, dream as if that was what you were born for. All you wonders out there… aspire. Inspire. Find your own unbound happiness, and turn your world around. Don’t extinguish the fire within, and win world with your unflinching determination and might.
Dare to live, dare to love, dare to reach where no one else has. Dare and do, you are born for this!
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Neena was the sole caregiver of Amma and though one would think that Amma was dependent on her, Neena felt otherwise.
Neena inhaled the aroma that emanated from the pan and took a deep breath. The aroma of cumin interspersed with butter transported her back to the modest kitchen in her native village. She could picture her father standing in the kitchen wearing his white crisp kurta as he made delectable concoctions for his only daughter.
Neena grew up in a home where both her parents worked together in tandem to keep the house up and running. She had a blissful childhood in her modest two-room house. The house was small but every nook and cranny gave her memories of a lifetime. Neena’s young heart imagined that her life would follow the same cheerful course. But how wrong she was!
When she was sixteen, the catastrophic clutches of destiny snatched away her parents. They passed away in a road accident and Neena was devastated. Relatives thronged her now gloomy house and soon it was decided that she should be married off.
Women today don’t want to be in a partnership that complicates their lives further. They need an equal partner with whom they can figure out life as a team, playing by each other’s strengths.
We all are familiar with that one annoying aunty who is more interested in our marital status than in the dessert counter at a wedding. But these aunties have somehow become obsolete now. Now they are replaced by men we have in our lives. Friends, family, and even work colleagues. It’s the men who are worried about why we are not saying yes to one among their clans. What is wrong with us? Aren’t we scared of dying alone? Like them?
A recent interaction with a guy friend of mine turned sour when he lectured me about how I would regret not getting married at the right time. He lectured that every event in our lives needs to be completed within a certain timeframe set by society else we are doomed. I wasn’t angry. I was just disappointed to realize that annoying aunties are rapidly doubling in our society. And they don’t just appear at weddings or family functions anymore. They are everywhere. They are the real pandemic.
Let’s examine this a little closer.
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