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Tinder can easily lead to an unpleasant experience, especially in a country like India. How do you know who filter out the creeps and swipe right only the nice guys?
We have all heard about Tinder. We have also heard about how a woman is viewed if she is on Tinder. What? You on Tinder? Why???
Well TBH, outside of India, Tinder is used as a hook up app, with absolutely n0 strings attached. This is could be because society abroad is open about sex, a basic need for any living and reproducing mammal.
In India, sex outside of marriage is a taboo, (okay okay I hear you! ) let’s say, largely. So when I first matched with guys on Tinder they would immediately as why was “I” on Tinder. Could I not manage a relationship or a marriage yet? Or to understand what I was looking for, maybe. Almost every match asked me this and I started to copy & paste my response (sorry guys).
I am not here to post another article on why Tinder is bad, shallow and absolutely not recommended. I am actually here to write about how to use Tinder better to meet people whom you would have otherwise never met in your life. It is just another app people, it doesn’t dictate your life!
Okay, let’s cut the melodrama here. No one, I say, no one can guarantee you a creep free experience. It is just not possible. However by placing a few filters, you could probably avoid running into a bad experience. Actually post a few heart breaks, everyone develops an ability to filter out the creeps just by looking at a profile picture, isn’t it? (Yes, that’s judgemental me!)
So, what is should be your creep filter? Whom to swipe Right?
Once you match with a profile you like, wait for the person to initiate the conversation (men still want to do that, lol). If they haven’t initiated the conversation in 24 hours, go ahead and drop a hello. The next obvious question is, what on earth do I write?
Online dating means you get judged. You could get ghosted because it is the easiest thing to do! Don’t feel bad about all of these. This may or may not have anything to do with you.
If you’ve figure out that ‘your’ behaviour is the cause, then great! Go ahead and work on it. It means you have identified a positive change to bring in yourself, isn’t that amazing?
If that’s not the case, like when he person says he is not open for a relationship due to what so ever reasons, then you have nothing to blame yourself for. Don’t demean or say rude things to the other person. It is their battle, let them fight it. You bow out peacefully and do what will keep you happy.
You have only a limited time on this planet! So cheer up, have fun and go for it!
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