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Do you know that there can be specific types of Indian brides? Bollywood is a great place to find these. A look at 10 such species of Indian brides.
Despite the variety and diversity among the people of India, one thing that binds them together (apart from Cricket and Bollywood of course) is the big fat Indian wedding. Go to any city, any town or village at any time of the year, one can invariably see an Indian wedding – with all the band baja and splendour. And with the wedding, second most important thing one can’t miss, taking the centre is – the leading lady herself, the BRIDE of the wedding!
The quintessential Indian bride or the DULHAN is a unique and exceptional species of human being which has its own characteristics and categories. This species is mostly found in Indian weddings but is also spotted sometimes in a cluster of young girls from early twenties till late thirties. Impossible to miss in a crowd and difficult to handle for long due to influx of marriage hormones, it is best to get her married at the earliest to avoid further psychological and financial damage to her parents.
Just like there are different wedding rituals from different states of India, the Indian brides can be classified based on behavioral patterns and exclusive qualities. And because Bollywood forms an integral part of all the Indian weddings, here are some categories of Indian brides to be based on their Bollywood counterparts.
The typical over excited and over enthusiastic chulbuli Indian girl whose only dream in life is to get married at the first chance she gets.
This girl connects each and every occasion of her life to how it will impact her married life. She attends others wedding in her best outfit so that someone would spot her and propose. She has everything ready and planned right from her wedding dresses, foot wear, jewellery, honeymoon destination, the colour of the curtains in her new house, every single thing. The only thing missing is the groom and she will not rest until she gets him.
This girl is perennially confused about everything in her life. Right from her body, her looks, her colour and hair to the way she speaks, behaves, walks, talks, everything.
First she is confused whether she should marry or not. Then she will agree to get married because she thinks marriage will end all her confusion. Then again she is confused about whether she is getting married to the correct boy or not. Then even after that, she will be confused about why her confusion is still haunting her.
Confused? The best way out for such bride is to blindly follow what her parents are telling her.
Pretty clear from the name itself. Isnt it ? This bride is a complete fashionista and wants to get married only to showcase her enviable collection of couture fashion. She is absolutely chic and sophisticated in her behaviour and there isn’t a hair out of place even when she wakes up. Someone once said “Shadi ek aisa beauty contest hai jo har ladki jeet jati hai.” This girl has the line as her life motto.
The quintessential Indian ‘sharmilee bahu‘, this girl never raises her voice and speaks with her eyes. Intelligent yet subservient, she will always prioritize her husband before her own needs. She has her independent personality yet she will hold family honour in the highest place. And the most important quality, she will wear chiffon sarees or satin salwar suits at home plus she will blush (oh my god) at the slightest praise from her husband.
Now this is one of the rarest category and on the verge of extinction in this age. And if by chance a man gets hold of this kind of bride, he is the subject of envy for the entire city.
She is a woman on a look out for that one rich and successful bachelor in town. Once she finds him, she will leave no stone unturned to seduce him and do everything to keep him like Cleopatra. All her earlier boyfriends are practice sessions and preparation grounds for reaching the top boss.
She could be harmless unless you wish to expose her true identity in front of others. And if you help her in her game, she might be generous and hook you up with a manager or the likes.
This girl does not want to marry in the first place. She is a self-made girl, extremely successful with a huge business empire running on her command. She also has shades of OCD, is a control freak and always wants to be on top of the game. So she can never accept someone above her or for that matter even at par with her.
If at all she gets married, she will do it just for getting a revenge or teaching someone a lesson or win a bet. Once she has won, she can as easily kick the husband out of her palace and life as well.
It’s really sad that Bollywood hasn’t come up with a really strong feminist character in any of the films yet. So the legend Shabana Azmi wholly and completely as herself is the only one who comes to my mind.
This breed wants to get married for all the right reasons but on her own terms. She will work after marriage of course but also pay half the bills. She will do only half the chores at home and she will have her say in all the family decisions. She will take her own decisions concerning her own money, investment, interests etc. And finally, she will not change her surname. PERIOD.
This bride is so much in awe and head over heels in love with her fiancé that the only thing she can talk about is HIM. Right from how well he talks and behaves till his work, his business, his earning everything. The painting in his living room and the brand of his underwear – everything is a subject of admiration, pride and love for the girl. She might also explain to you how her man is so health conscious because he plays carom at the elite sports club every Sunday (whatever that means!). She is the bride who gave birth to the phrase “Pati Parmeshwar”.
She gets married because nothing else is happening in her life that is interesting and because her parents say that it’s the right age to get married. After marriage she gets settled with her husband and lives happily ever after. And this is not a fairy tale. Its actually true.
Finally. Just like the Poonam, this breed is also rare yet not on the route to extinction. In fact this breed is growing fast and with little support can create wonders for society.
She is independent, strong and can handle home and office simultaneously with patience and elegance. She also takes care of old family members.
She gets married only because she wants to get married and loves the guy. And once she ties the knot, she sticks to her man till death do them apart. A perfect wife and mother, she is the best bride a man can ever have.
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