Comments for Women's Web: Online Community For Indian Women http://www.womensweb.in Tue, 21 Feb 2012 11:07:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Do Women Really Want Equality? by Sue http://www.womensweb.in/2012/02/do-women-really-want-equality/#comment-4218 Sue Tue, 21 Feb 2012 11:07:04 +0000 http://www.womensweb.in/?p=5315#comment-4218 I've been saying for years that what most women want -- including me -- is equivalence. I don't want everything the men have, I just want those freedoms translated into women's terms, keeping in mind women's needs. Something I wish every working man would understand is that no dedicated working woman really likes taking time off to attend to domestic needs, nobody appreciates those inroads into their work times. It's just that somebody has to and menfolks have an even harder time taking those breaks in our current workplaces (mostly). I’ve been saying for years that what most women want — including me — is equivalence. I don’t want everything the men have, I just want those freedoms translated into women’s terms, keeping in mind women’s needs.

Something I wish every working man would understand is that no dedicated working woman really likes taking time off to attend to domestic needs, nobody appreciates those inroads into their work times. It’s just that somebody has to and menfolks have an even harder time taking those breaks in our current workplaces (mostly).

]]> Comment on Self Defence For Women by chandrima http://www.womensweb.in/articles/self-defence-tips-women/#comment-4213 chandrima Mon, 20 Feb 2012 15:03:43 +0000 http://www.womensweb.in/?post_type=articles&p=5452#comment-4213 There is so less awareness about self defence in India. There is so less awareness about self defence in India.

]]> Comment on Do Women Really Want Equality? by chandrima http://www.womensweb.in/2012/02/do-women-really-want-equality/#comment-4212 chandrima Mon, 20 Feb 2012 14:56:10 +0000 http://www.womensweb.in/?p=5315#comment-4212 This is a very valid question. Having a life with a right to choose (that can be a result of many years of conditioning in initial periods, I accept) for my own self is what I demand as an Indian woman. Loved the examples. This is a topic of immense thought and debate. This will be a topic of work for generations of Indian women to come. This is a very valid question. Having a life with a right to choose (that can be a result of many years of conditioning in initial periods, I accept) for my own self is what I demand as an Indian woman. Loved the examples. This is a topic of immense thought and debate. This will be a topic of work for generations of Indian women to come.

]]> Comment on In Pursuit Of Epicurean Inspiration by chandrima http://www.womensweb.in/articles/inspired-global-cooking/#comment-4211 chandrima Mon, 20 Feb 2012 14:52:35 +0000 http://www.womensweb.in/?post_type=articles&p=4972#comment-4211 Excellent read! I liked the way you represented how an Indian can get to know about different cuisine and how open mindedness helps. Being an Indian, being proud about Indian cuisine, having lived in Europe for many years, having been skeptical in the beginning and then getting opened up to whole bunch of food and flavours of Europe I totally identify with this article. Also I have read from very few Indian food writers who write about their experiences with non-Indian cuisine. Yours one is definitely a genuine stand out! Waiting for more from you. Excellent read! I liked the way you represented how an Indian can get to know about different cuisine and how open mindedness helps. Being an Indian, being proud about Indian cuisine, having lived in Europe for many years, having been skeptical in the beginning and then getting opened up to whole bunch of food and flavours of Europe I totally identify with this article. Also I have read from very few Indian food writers who write about their experiences with non-Indian cuisine. Yours one is definitely a genuine stand out! Waiting for more from you.

]]> Comment on What’s Up With You Flashers? by Anne’s story: I wish I had atleast screamed obscenities at him | Chennai Hollaback! http://www.womensweb.in/2011/09/street-harassment-flashers/#comment-4208 Anne’s story: I wish I had atleast screamed obscenities at him | Chennai Hollaback! Mon, 20 Feb 2012 09:38:29 +0000 http://www.womensweb.in/?p=2326#comment-4208 [...] This post was first published here [...] [...] This post was first published here [...]

]]> Comment on Do Women Really Want Equality? by Towards Harmony http://www.womensweb.in/2012/02/do-women-really-want-equality/#comment-4203 Towards Harmony Mon, 20 Feb 2012 05:49:16 +0000 http://www.womensweb.in/?p=5315#comment-4203 Chandni, Totally with you on this one. Equity is what we are asking for. Women absolutely need maternity leaves and if asking for equality means not having maternity leaves because men don't need it then there is a problem. In France they call it parenting leaves and both men and women get them. they found an equal solution. But anyway regarding the equity-equality question you are so on the mark about this. Have you read 'The Second Sex' -Simone de Beauvoir? She has an amazing take on this equity vs equality question. Lovely post! Chandni, Totally with you on this one.

Equity is what we are asking for. Women absolutely need maternity leaves and if asking for equality means not having maternity leaves because men don’t need it then there is a problem.
In France they call it parenting leaves and both men and women get them. they found an equal solution.

But anyway regarding the equity-equality question you are so on the mark about this.
Have you read ‘The Second Sex’ -Simone de Beauvoir?
She has an amazing take on this equity vs equality question.
Lovely post!

]]> Comment on Changing The Male Mindset At Work by sunilias http://www.womensweb.in/2012/02/changing-the-male-mindset-at-work/#comment-4196 sunilias Sun, 19 Feb 2012 17:45:53 +0000 http://www.womensweb.in/?p=5207#comment-4196 I can only mention that till recently the All India Service Rules said that if the husband and wife are both All India Services officers, only one of them will be entitled to house rent allowance (HRA) and leave travel concession (LTC)!! I may hardly add that it was the husband who ended up claiming both (of course he was doing it for the family!). I can only mention that till recently the All India Service Rules said that if the husband and wife are both All India Services officers, only one of them will be entitled to house rent allowance (HRA) and leave travel concession (LTC)!! I may hardly add that it was the husband who ended up claiming both (of course he was doing it for the family!).

]]> Comment on As Always, You Asked For It by sunilias http://www.womensweb.in/2012/02/as-always-you-asked-for-it/#comment-4195 sunilias Sun, 19 Feb 2012 17:33:27 +0000 http://www.womensweb.in/?p=5595#comment-4195 In this case, the CM seems to have set the tone and tenor of the case, aided crudely by Minister Madan Mitra. Had it not been for the tenacity of Damayanti Sen, the crime branch chief of the city police, cops would still be blaming the victim. Damayanti's good work seems to have been undone, at least in part, by the comments of the Police Commissioner RK Pachnanda, who again harped on the media (and the victim?) maligning the government and the police. Since when is it the job of a police officer to defend the government's image? In this case, the CM seems to have set the tone and tenor of the case, aided crudely by Minister Madan Mitra. Had it not been for the tenacity of Damayanti Sen, the crime branch chief of the city police, cops would still be blaming the victim. Damayanti’s good work seems to have been undone, at least in part, by the comments of the Police Commissioner RK Pachnanda, who again harped on the media (and the victim?) maligning the government and the police. Since when is it the job of a police officer to defend the government’s image?

]]> Comment on Talking About Street Sexual Harassment by Reema Sarwal http://www.womensweb.in/articles/hollaback-street-sexual-harassment/#comment-4187 Reema Sarwal Wed, 15 Feb 2012 18:42:49 +0000 http://www.womensweb.in/?post_type=articles&p=5367#comment-4187 Point taken, but one could do with help about finding the words to talk? What should one say? And to whom? I'd like to know your answers to the questions raised in another Women's Web article: http://www.womensweb.in/2012/01/the-correct-response-to-sexual-harassment/ Point taken, but one could do with help about finding the words to talk? What should one say? And to whom? I’d like to know your answers to the questions raised in another Women’s Web article: http://www.womensweb.in/2012/01/the-correct-response-to-sexual-harassment/

]]> Comment on A Mother’s Love by Arundhati Venkatesh http://www.womensweb.in/articles/mothers-love-story-2/#comment-4186 Arundhati Venkatesh Wed, 15 Feb 2012 15:29:05 +0000 http://www.womensweb.in/?post_type=articles&p=5394#comment-4186 Thank you, Rama! Thank you, Rama!

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