Women's Web

Guest Blogger Gauri Trivedi in her own words: An avid reader and a hobbyist writer, my sanity and survival depend entirely on the written word. I find inspiration in the ordinary and prefer crowds to solitude. Always on the go, technically speaking I defy the tag of a “stay-at-home” Mom. If I have something to say, it will eventually find its place on the pages of my blogs, http://messyhomelovelykids.blogspot.com/ and
http://bookslifeandthingsbetween.blogspot.com/

Sometimes I encounter remarks which go like “You were such a brilliant student, I always thought you would go places” (with an undertone that implies that I haven’t do too well for myself)or “you were always so ambitious in life, we never thought you would be sitting at home doing nothing” or even worse, “I still remember seeing you push through crowded platforms and even more crowded trains, staying up late at office to finish that one agreement and yet arriving the next day on time, impeccably [...]

Guest Blogger Paromita Bardoloi says she is a dreamer by profession and a writer by choice. She uses words to express her love for life and she considers life her beloved.

There are not too many years between me and the thirties. As, I look back at my twenties, I realize how much the so called TWENTIES make us what we are. We graduate from school, and then come the first job, the first real relationship and the first real break up. We face life first hand. Here are a few lessons I learnt as a woman, which enriched me for a lifetime.

Guest Blogger Sadia Raval is the founder and Chief Psychologist of Inner Space Counseling and Assessment Center, located in Malad (West), Mumbai. Counseling, psychotherapy and psychological assessment are the main focus of Inner Space. You can find the Inner Space website here and read other articles written by her here.

In my earlier post on expressing one’s feelings, I discussed how we are reluctant to express our feelings due to the fear, “What if I express but I am not heard”. This is the fear of not receiving validation, and in this post, I will be talking about why it is so important and how we can express validation for others’ feelings and receive validation for our own.

Guest Blogger Sadia Raval is the founder and Chief Psychologist of Inner Space Counseling and Assessment Center, located in Malad (West), Mumbai. Counseling, psychotherapy and psychological assessment are the main focus of Inner Space. You can find the Inner Space website here and read other articles written by her here.

A fellow therapist asked, on one of the forums that I am a part of, “Communication experts ask us to express feelings… What do we expect when we express feelings?”

In my mind I went on to wonder: for sure a number of people hesitate to express feelings… Why so? What would happen if we do express feelings? Especially say, if we are not heard?

Guest Blogger Gauri Trivedi in her own words: An avid reader and a hobbyist writer, my sanity and survival depend entirely on the written word. I find inspiration in the ordinary and prefer crowds to solitude. Always on the go, technically speaking I defy the tag of a “stay-at-home” Mom. If I have something to say, it will eventually find its place on the pages of my blogs, http://messyhomelovelykids.blogspot.com/ and
http://bookslifeandthingsbetween.blogspot.com/

“Hey little girl, its here, right behind the door” I offered a clue to one of the kids playing in front of my garage. She seemed to be about 5 or 6 years old and looked like she was searching for her sand toy. “I am not a little girl, my name is Arshvi” she shot back in a tone I didn’t quite expect from a human being her size.  And not only that, the expressions on her face made me feel almost guilty for calling a [...]

Guest Blogger Lata Gwalani is a behavioural trainer and principal facilitator at Human Impact Training and Consulting Pvt. Ltd. She is the author of the psychological thriller, INCOGNITO. She can be contacted at lata@thehumanimpact.in and you can follow her on http://carelessbytes.wordpress.com

If you are one of those women who are constantly scuttling between roles with this frighteningly sickening fetish for being perfect in all your roles, then you are likely a good candidate for the Superwoman title.

Whoa! But, hold on…it is not a title that you would want to flaunt, because, the epithet ‘superwoman’ is a crown void of all its sheen. Uneasy lies the head that wears a crown. All that happens to you is that you drown yourself in a deluge of stress and self-pity. What’s worse, no one seems to care about your self-anointed Superwoman status.

Guest Blogger Gauri Trivedi in her own words, An avid reader and a hobbyist writer, my sanity and survival depend entirely on the written word. I find inspiration in the ordinary and prefer crowds to solitude. Always on the go, technically speaking I defy the tag of a “stay-at-home” Mom. If I have something to say, it will eventually find its place on the pages of my blogs, http://messyhomelovelykids.blogspot.com/ and
http://bookslifeandthingsbetween.blogspot.com/

I love to read, not for the hours of serenity it gives me or the wisdom books impart but because of the thinking tap it turns on in me. Reading brings out my analytical bug. Most books stay with me long after I have dropped them off in the library box.

Recently, I finished reading a novel authored by Sudha Murthy. I prefer her non-fiction more than her stories so this isn’t going to be a review of the book. But as I finished the book my mind [...]

Guest Blogger Rinzu Rajan describes herself as a single woman, struggling to shrug social compulsions and religious rigidity, who writes poetry and is a published poet. Helps women the society has loathed at, and is making an effort to put her wile and wrath on paper to untie the blindfolds of people who consider women a weaker sex. She writes at www.rinzurajan.blogspot.com.

A recent Facebook spat prompted me to write this. The guy in question thought he could get away easily with his one sided opinion about divorcees or single mothers or women as a whole. And then on a recent visit to a friend who calls herself a womanist, I got to know about a perception many Indian women had against people of their own race. Was she a womanist? I doubted it!

I don’t know why we are not so strongly opinionated against men who are two timing their wives or are incarnated forms of [...]

Born and brought up in a small town, Guest Blogger Paromita Bardoloi says she is a dreamer by profession and a writer by choice. She uses words to tell her stories and considers life to be her beloved. She is a storyteller.

Life is built in a tapestry of relationships. Lovers, strangers, friends, colleagues, bosses, neighbours, relatives etc weave that tapestry. No matter how much we claim to be independent or even a loner, we are always in a relationship. Those relationships include: the homes we stay, the streets we walk, our schools, colleges, workplaces, towns and cities. Yes, we are all weaved in worlds of relationships.

One of the most beautiful relationships that I have ever shared is with my home and the small town I was brought up in. My relationship with my home has been that of a difficult lover. 

Guest Blogger Chandni is a development professional in the field of public health with a keen interest in gender and womens’ issues. She blogs at
chandni.wordpress.com.

A lot of us interested in issues of gender and feminism know that in theory, there are various schools of thought on feminism. First wave, new age, radical, classic….you name it, we have it! However, for those looking from a distance, the word “feminism” automatically refers to “demand for equality”.

A few day ago, over a conversation with a friend, the issue of women leaving the workforce to have children came up. He was cribbing about women asking for equality on all quarters and then also demanding flexibility as being unfair. The gist of his argument being, on one hand women want to be equal to men, and on the other hand, still use the “woman” card as per convenience.