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5 Ways Life Changes After Divorce

POSTED: July 15, 2011

Life after divorce for women in India is not easy; here are 5 ways in which the lives of divorced women in India change. 

By Kalpana Misra

Divorce, divorce – the big ‘D’! It’s often pronounced ‘dievorce’ in India. Makes me wonder – could this be because in our country, it is the big ‘no-no’, the end of life in society as we know it?

“When I first contemplated leaving my husband, my friends, educated and independent women, proffered advice in the form of dire warnings. ‘Don’t even think about it. It’s not worth it; this will seem like nothing in comparison to what you will have to go through’. They were partly right. It is tough, but you survive it. There’s light at the end of the tunnel, and eventually you feel much better for having taken that step rather than continuing in a situation that is anathema to your soul,” says Kaveri Choudhury, University Professor and mother of 2 grown up boys, who left her husband at the age of 45.

What can you expect if you decide to step out of your marriage?

1. Living standards plummet

Your living standards drop because the money available has been halved and the expenses have risen – one establishment has been split into two. Jyoti Chatterjee’s* husband decided to leave her and move in with his mistress. As a nursery school teacher, living in her own apartment with her 11 year old son, Jyoti did have the means to survive, but there were many things she could suddenly not afford or had to think twice about – like holidays or getting an air conditioner in her living room. “None of them necessities, considering I had enough money to put food on the table. But…at a time of emotional turmoil like a divorce, one can do with some creature comforts to cheer oneself up,” she says.

Jyoti was lucky. There are others whose lives change completely in terms of the kind of homes they live in or the amount of housework they suddenly have to do. After all, a spouse, even a bad one, shares half (more or less) of the chores with one. It’s hard but you do eventually find less expensive ways of enjoying yourself and you learn to strive harder to earn just that bit more. With this comes that sense of satisfaction that you ‘did it on your own.’

2. Children lose the plot

The children, if there were any, start acting up – doing badly at school or college, being socially inept and quarrelsome.

Divorce means that a child’s world falls apart and the two people he/she loves best in the world don’t love each other anymore (Read, Parenting While Going Through A Divorce). This is devastating knowledge for the child who will be afraid, angry, depressed, rebellious or guilty and will act out these emotions in one way or another. This is a time when children need extra care and more attention. Be honest with them about what is going on and encourage them to express their feelings.

Don’t presume that it is better to carry on with the failing marriage in order to protect the children. If you cannot mend your relationship, it may be best to move on, because children sense what is going on…

Don’t presume that it is better to carry on with the failing marriage in order to protect the children. If you cannot mend your relationship, it may be best to move on, because children sense what is going on, they know when you are not truly happy and the pretense of a false marriage is also detrimental to their well being. Handled sensitively and with an awareness of the inherent difficulties this stumbling block could become the irritant in the oyster of your child’s life that turns her into a pearl.

3. Social pariah

You die socially when you are divorced. This may seem like a small thing and for some it’s not that important. But if you are a social being and sensitive, you are in for a few nasty surprises. Your common friends may choose to invite your ex-spouse and ignore your calls. Ouch, that hurts! Your own mother may speak up on behalf of the one you left, pointing out all your flaws in an unloving way. Take all of it as information. Those people were never your friends in any case and now certainly cannot be. At least you now know exactly what your mother thinks of you. And the good thing is, you will make more friends.

You will meet like-minded people, those who have been through similar experiences. So perhaps it’s the universe’s way of getting rid of the deadwood that you wasted time on. When it happens, laugh and carry on. There’s a better, truer friend waiting round the next bend.

4. Prey

Anything male prowls around you suggestively (and if you’re a man, everyone is suspicious of you because you’re such an oddity).

You are single but not ready to mingle and are flummoxed by the kind of unnecessary attention that you are suddenly getting. It can make you very uncomfortable and unsure of yourself.

Sandy Khanna*, a self-aware and reflective sort of person, spent hours ruminating on her attire, the subconscious signals she may be giving out and a host of other things till she came to the conclusion that it was not her, but her circumstances that made her so interesting. At first she was depressed, and a little afraid of being such a target for intense attention. Then she decided to enjoy it. Instead of dressing down to avoid being noticed, she dressed exactly as she wanted to and bloomed in the extra sunshine, taking it as the ultimate compliment.

Time heals everything and as you get used to the new you, you start enjoying solitary restaurant meals and learn to identify mindless teenager laughter as not being directed at you. 

5. Loss of Self-confidence

Your self-esteem plunges new depths – you haven’t been able to make your relationship work, you are very wary of relationships and yet you would like to be in one because that’s what you’re used to. If you haven’t had the good fortune to get a divorce by mutual consent then you’ve been dragged through the divorce courts and undergone tremendous character assassination.

On your bad days you wake up and see couples everywhere. You cannot bear the weekends because it’s about family time and you don’t have any unless it’s your turn to get the kids. You avoid malls, shops and cinema halls like the plague because you feel that everyone is staring at you and your singleness. You want to eat a Chinese meal and all your friends are busy with their husbands, brothers, parents or other friends. You defy convention and go anyway. You hang your head into your bowl of Won Ton soup, feeling the waves of pity from all around you. And you’re sure that group of teenagers is laughing at you. This too gets better.

Time heals everything and as you get used to the new you, you start enjoying solitary restaurant meals and learn to identify mindless teenager laughter as not being directed at you. You order a big meal confidently and eat it with relish, avoiding eye contact with beer swilling single males but unafraid of their curiosity. And you get the left-overs packed to take home.

In short, you enjoy life…again, stronger, more confident, poorer but with a wealth of rich experience. If you have to, go ahead and do it. You won’t just survive – you will thrive.

*Names changed on request

Kalpana is a writer and editor, mother of three girls and an ardent blogger. When she is not travelling or tweeting she works on her book which is a funny-philosophical take on building a house and a home in the wilderness of the Aravalli hills. Her other passions are human rights, animal rights, environmental concerns and Buddhism. She is also a fitness freak who dances salsa and tango and teaches yoga.

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  1. Thankyou.I have been married for ten years.My husband is going to leave me soon to be with his mistress of 6 years.I have a 5 year old daughter.I am going through a very bad phase in my life..i still cant believe it has happened and my loving husband has been cheating me for so long..it happens in movies…the truth has not sunk in yet but i cry so much..i have been living in false paradise..i feel like a fool..reading your article has helped me on my journey towards healing.

    • Dear Unlucky Wife. I feel for you. I am divorced myself and was abandoned in the US by my ex when I became clinically depressed and unable to function effectively. I will not tell you that life will get better or be easier.

      I will tell you though that divorce is a great opportunity to discover your true inner self. Not the woman you became after marriage and motherhood, but the person you always were, as a young girl and a dreamy teenager.

      Life after divorce is not easy, but it is not difficult either. In many ways, as married women, we lived somebody else’s idea of a good life, we were pretending to be happy as women.

      Divorce will allow you to reclaim your original self one whose worth is not derived from a mangalsutra and a miligram of sindoor. Use this experience to become stronger, more resilient, and to learn first-hand, the infinite hyprocrisy of Indian society. Divorce will tell you really cares about you and who doesn’t. Use this lesson wisely and rebuild your life around the things that really matter to you. Hugs

  2. Divorceddoodler -

    Dear ‘Unlucky Wife’ who is turning lucky now that you’ll be freed from this man who doesn’t value you.
    There IS life after divorce and you WILL be much stronger for it.
    During the first early dark days I found it very helpful to read blogs like these and to interact with other divorced people, men as well as women. Because men going through divorce are just as vulnerable and often just want someone to talk to, and are rarely the wolves they are painted to be.
    I write at Women’s Web and at my other blog http://divorceddoodling.wordpress.com/
    Do join.

  3. Hi

    I left my husband just last week and have felt nothing but light, young and free. I had a very abusive mother-in-law and my husband refused to recognize my suffering.

    I am still young (26) and finishing my MBA. I have moved back into the hostel and spend all my time with my single friends. I dress up like crazy now and enjoy the attention I get.

    Overnight my suffering came to an end. She’s not my problem anymore and I don’t need to worry about what she will say or do next. And how can u miss someone who put you through so much and refused to acknowledge your pain?

    Everything always works out for the best :D

    • Hi Sonal….Im happy for you that u have taken a decission…I have a child and i want to quit my husband…but worried where both would stay…i can earn myself as im educated….do u know some place where mother and child could stay safely

    • my good wishes for u sonal…………
      n enjoy life in ur way. :)

  4. I respect all divorcee lady its very painful, I need a lady for frndship/ marriage I m 41 divorced hindu punjabi guy live in india. Decent,fair sensitive person

    • hi everyone…i m navika, have a son 2 n half year old.yes,my life hs also been miserable. i want someone to talk to.i want to have a friend especially a divorcee as i think he or she wud understand me and vice versa.my in laws r very greedy.they want to have all my husband’s salary as he earns very well.they created enough misunderstanding between me n my husband that he left me n filed divorce case.he never saw us (me n son) after he left home(actually run away in night).he never took any of my calls after that.i dont want divorce because i want my son to have a father.i wish he wud come back some day.i dont know if i wud b able to trust him again but i cant take my son’s sadness when he sees other children playing with thein dads or sitting on their lap.he doesn’t even know what a dad means.

      • I feel ur pain navika…..dont bother about a person who has left u….ur son will hate such a person when he grows up….live ur life happily with ur son…do ur best for ur child…..

      • Recently Indian Rajya Sabha has passed a bill that women divorcing is also entitle for the property of the husband. Before signing on the divorce papers you are requested to take all the entitled property & cash. Divorce is a very painful episode in the life of a women which I can realize very much. You are requested to remain busy in your work.

  5. hi i am 30 in age. i am facing tough phase of my life. i got married last year. It was love cum arranged marriage. I was very happy that i got a loving and caring husband which i always wanted. But 2 weeks only i realised that my husband is no more loving and caring. I thought it was his office stress and ignored that. But 6 months back i came to know he was cheating me. when i opposed him he left me at my father’s house. My in-laws also supported him and said that boys can do affairs nothing wrong in it.
    Now i filled case in court. Yet i am not able to trust that all this happened to me. I tried to restart my life but failed. I am nt able to concentrate anywhere. I thought that time will heal my wounds but after 6 months also i feel same pain.

    • all the best to all your endeavours. sivajay999@gmail.com

    • Aarti,
      Life is full of surprises and both good and bad memories are part of our personality. I went through the same emotions that you are going through. I spent 6 months where I hardly slept or had proper food and was unable to concentrate on my job. And to think that it was an arranged marriage!
      But finally I realised that each one of us is alone and we have to become our own best friend. I finally realised that I was free from the misognyst attitude of my husband, constant domination of my father-in-law and unrelenting scrutiny of my mother-in-law. I fought back against everything and came out a winner. Now, I take pride in being able to see through people. I am no longer the naive , trusting, gullible girl. I am able to appreciate the small blessings of my life.

      Have faith. There are still good people in this world and what the heck!!!….Make your own self your best friend. :)

    • hiii.hw r u ,never leave hope,one of female frnd is suffering frm same sitution n she is having patience,so belive in god,n tk care

    • All the best mam

  6. Hi ! I got married in 2007 , separated in 2008, Full divorce in court settled in 2010. 2 years of hell. I was coming to terms with this new life- got a new job in a city -lived in hostel – decided i will marry again only if i find the right person. Changed job for better salary – about to go to US when blood test done by company showed that I have HIV !!!!! My life is broken again. My boss is very supportive -treating me like a father- gave me leave to adjust and arranged doctor appointments- says still i can get all i wanted in my life. But i cant see life at the end of this tunnel. I cannot contact my husband or his family – he lives abroad now – he may have had blood test – not sure. I am sure this came from him because i was physical with only him.But after going through everything in my life – i feel i should not blame him.May be i was very ambitious or confident or arrogant that i can achieve anything in life. I dont speak to my parents – dont have any contact with any other relatives. Feel all alone in the middle of 1.2 billion people.

    • Sahana, I truly feel for you. I cannot imagine how difficult it must be to deal with divorce and HIV. If you wish to vent or need a shoulder to cry on, please write to me at writetonehabhatt@gmail.com.

      I do not know nor understand why some of us are condemned to suffer the consequences of other people’s mistakes; perhaps it is karma, perhaps its just sheer chance…who knows.

      I realise that in our society, most people, family included, shun you after divorce. So us divorced folks can offer each other support and succour. Take baby steps to heal our wounded heart and souls.

      I wish you luck and the courage to conquer the challenges life has thrown your way

  7. Its not their that only man are cheaters, I am a 27 years old guy(Presently). I got married in 2010 Feb when i was around 25 years old. It was a arrange marriage and all went well at that time. I am a engineer working in a MNC and earning good. For throughout my life i never had any girllfriend or so. All love kept for my wife. I had done my best,love her so much, took care n respect of her.
    After six months i got to know that she was cheating me, when i oppose her reaction was very bad. when i talk to her family on the same, they started blaming me only.
    they started harrasing us and started blackmailing that i would give them 20 lacks rs otherwise they will do dowry court case against my family.,
    God knows the truth, she had destroyed my life, I went into depression for one year. I dont know i have n everr cheated anybody, why this happened to me
    Now again want to live life, want to have true love, family, kids….. Feel very lonely
    Lets see what god has decided for me, i have given my life in his hands.

    • i dont know why God missmatches the couples.some guys are raelly loving but their wifes dont understand that,inturn harrase them i pity.for girls who expect love they dont get

  8. Hi All,
    Im one of you. Going thru divorce. Feeling of rejection, fear is still not sinking in.I know deres light jus the other corner but nva expectd this will happen to me. Its not a social tabooo any more i guess but still dont hvae guts to face the world alone. Jus not able to accept the fact dat il be my husband very soon vl be my ex husband….I luvd him truly but they betrayed my trust used me for dere benefits….

    every nite i swear tom vl be better den today…bt jus cnt stand by my wrds….feel pathetic:-(

    • Hello Trisha. I’m divorced myself. If you ever feel that you are in need of help or support, drop me a line. Unfortunately, I do not know of any online support community for women in India. In its absense, we can perhaps offer each other support online. Drop me a mail at: writetonehabhatt@gmail.com.

      To women who are going through divorce right now, life gets better ladies. Stay strong, believe in yourself and live life with as much vigour as you can. In many ways divorce is the wake-up call many of us need. It forces us to focus on the good and get rid of the bad. I’m a stronger, wiser and better person because of my divorce. My ex is also wiser and gentler now than before.
      There’s always a silver lining to the darkest of clouds. Dont give up!

  9. Divorce is a painful reality for middle class families now.For women, it is more difficult because of the social stigma attached. I am a working woman who minds her own business. Yet because of my divorcee status, people spread wrong rumours about me which has put my safety at risk. It seems like women are always hounded, whether they are single, married, widowed or divorced.

    And it seems men and women have become devoid of dignity, honour, respect.
    I would welcome the day when human beings get controlled by machine, a la Matrix. :)

  10. live ur life bindaass…bcoz their is a love in world…..

  11. no love in this world…only need fulfillment is their…need=love….mom dad,brother sister,pati patni…..xyz only need not love….:)

  12. Hi, i am 35 and having a daughter of 5 yrs. Life has been miserable with several ups and down . got married in 2005 and since then my husband and his family was very dominating. Always insulated my parents . My mother in law has problem with me since i have been visting my parents. My husband is also unpredicatable sometimes he behaved very nicely and sometimes very arrogantly. he blamed me for all his misdeeds. Last year he left his own house and filed a divorce without any one knowlege and is not saying any reasons for the same. His family pressurizes me to make him come back to his house . They say that they support but it never showed . They all are on good terms with him but i felt to be leftover. he never cared about his daughter. Whenever my family members try to ask him the reason for his act , he always tells them to give me some time to rethink of the discission. i am stuck in my matrimony house with no love or care . Dont understand what to do . I and my daughter are going in very bad phase of life.

    • DEAR NEHA…one suggestion i give u..be selfish i ur relationship..do not leave ur in law`s house…be take decision according to selfish ness…..jase to tassa….be sure in termss of roti kapda makan…donot cry face this sitution care fullyyyyy ..smartly….i m like u faced alot of problemss…be selfish……plz yadi koi baat buri legii to sorryy..

    • Dear Neha …. felt very sorry, but y donot u move on & file for out of court settlement, in which u will get a house 7 maintainance for life time. I donot think ur husband will ever come to u. Life is short, so move on & enjoy ur liberty.

    • Neha , First you immediately file a case against your husband under domestic violence act. You ask for compensation & maintenance. You don’t believe on your husband , he will not change his attitude. He is always acting on the tunings of his parents. No court will give the divorce to any person without your consent. Only supreme court is empowered to approve the divorce without the consent of the wife. You intimate to the court about all the mental & physical ill treatments committed by your husband.

  13. Neha just cme out of dat house anyhow else u n ur daughter wil go into depression….plz

  14. I am XX, 31 years old man. I got married recently with a girl who was working in Mumbai but from a small town. Soon after marriage, she told me that I like someone else, and never wanted to marry you. She refused to have any kind of relationship. As a result our marriage was not consummated. I called her parents, after requesting them, they came to my city – Bangalore. She told me that I have told several times that I don’t like you. But then I told that ok we will try. Her mother left, who is a gazette officer. Later on, my parents came, they started cooking for us. Earlier, We used to go for all the movies in theatre- it’s expensive in Bangalore. Her salary is lower than me, but she is from a rich family. Later, I will say something honestly- I need a woman who loves me, who thinks that I am someone special to her. My friends used to ask me, you might be having fun. I knew from my inside no emotional love, no physical love. Indians don’t have any hanky-panky life before marriage. They expect this in first night or shortly. I was frustrated. She went to her hometown, and was not interested in anything. I asked her, if you think me as a husband then only comeback, otherwise don’t. So, Finally she left me. She came back to pick up her luggage. She was happy. Now, we have filed divorce. I feel positive that one day she will realise her fault. But I don’t know whether I am correct or not. But, She is looking excitingly for divorce. So, I also feel it is better to leave this woman. I am not against any woman. I respect woman. But, Why it happened to me? Is that I am missing something? Why I couldn’t turn her for my side. Will she think about me ever? I want to know how such type of personality thinks? What I should do? I am frustrated by my failure. I am not from a society where divorce is common. I am the first one in the family. She is happy, she has lots of friends. In fact, when she was here, she was sad. She wanted to leave our house as soon as possible. She is a complex person, she claims that she is a good actor. On first night, she said ” I am experienced”. From her physique, she doesn’t look experienced at all. She was telling lie to turn me off. She went with me to Europe- honeymoon which was sponsored by her brother. In the entire trip, she was cursing me and was saying, I am missing Mumbai and my friends. I don’t want to be with you. We have a age difference of 4 years. I need ur people views on it. Why does it happen like that? Please tell me. Am I missing some basics? I am depressed. I feel pity to see my mother and father. They are very sad.

    • Hi…..please don’t b depressed….. everything will b fine….. if she doesn’t likes u then no use thinking about her….b cool….even I’m in d same situation….I’m unable to forget everything but I’m trying to…….u r quite innocent… k….have hope in life…u feel good about yourself…. I’m nine years younger than you…. just think how I’m facing this situation…..I’m not advicing u but sharing my thoughts…that’s it….

      • Really hat’soff to you, I don’t knw how do you face all this.

        Still we pray for your bright future.

        All d bst

  15. Hi , I got married in 2010. He started troubling me with his words , actions and arrogance since day one. I never opened up because it might lead to war of words.Rather it would be great if i keep my mouth shut. ! he took advantage of it. I thought this is what life is and started compromising myself. He has biological problems and not fit for family life. Even then i did not open up assuming i can adopt an orphan instead. One day suddenly he reacted violently and had spread a rumor that i have an illegal affair. Every one in his family supported him. No one objected him. Once very nice , calm ,amicable girl has now become a devil to them. I lost trust on him and i came back to my home. I am working and i can live independent. He left me alone and started living separately. I need divorce from that Arrogant / Rubbish husband. I am not bothered about the society since none of these social persons have come to rescue me when i am in trouble. I am 26 now. I believe i have more life ahead and don’t want to crib around him requesting him to be with me. There is no meaning for our relation as it was purely artificial and no exchange of feelings. I requested for MCD. Waiting .. how it goes .. ! I am damn happy now ..

    • hi priya first of all i wish u for leave them. ur life will be happy. when i read ur post i astonished b’coz what u’ve faced is similar to me. am also 26. there is no life in this world for innocents.

      • Innocent but not foolish -

        Dear Innocent friends,,,

        Please don’t equate innocence to foolishness… Don’t be foolish… Life can only be as beautiful as you want it to be… stand up make life beautiful for yourself…BECOME apathetic to pain and any feeling of dejection…

        Try meetup.com there are all women groups. They go out and enjoy…

        PLEASE don’t do things to others that your spouses did to you… IGNORE THEM (its a matter of time)… continue being innocents(humans) but don’t be foolish….

        All the best friends…

  16. Dear All i am also a victim of Hindus marriage act of divorce.Just at the age of 30 Years.Married with fraud family,they always asked me amount .
    Even they have told me lie about her education ,age health problem.
    But just one month before i got relief from same and now i am so happy.Wants to enjoy my life.Becoz i know how i got this.
    Now i am intrested to marry with a decent educated lady even with child no problem but faithful is compulsory.I am working in MNC and wants to become IPS office.Pls

  17. hi am 26,MCA graduate.i got married in last year. before marriage i didn’t love anyone not have more friends. it is arranged marriage. stay with him only 3 months. we didn’t speak with each other at least like neighbors. if i spoke with him he use many bad words. not respect anybody including his parents. not follow any morals. totally mismatch marriage. he is not a caring person started torture after two days of my marriage. i didn’t believe these are happening to me. got aborted at that time i faced many rude behaviors from him. more painful days. my in-laws said men are like that u need to adjust with him even if he go with any other girl. i never argue with him for anything. Am a only daughter to my parents. my dad support me for every problems. that is why am still alive.
    my in-laws and my husband shut me in a room and tortured me for a week at that time i didn’t have phone also. at that time i thought my life is over. i will not helpful to my parents in anyway.
    unexpectedly one of my husband’s relative came to home i shouted for help me. he called my parents and told happened problems. immediately my parents started journey to my husband’s home which had six hours travelling time. there was no hope for me to live.
    at last i relieved from them it is like film. now also he is troubling me to give diverse quickly. heart full of pain.
    unable to forget everything… y these are happened to me i don’t know. please suggest me to leave pain from my heart…

  18. I m 28, married 2 yrs back….love cum arrange marriage…but all love was suddenly lost after mariage…my mother in law is very cruel n greedy….uses abusive words but for my husband she is a Godess…he alwys supports her….
    One day I came back home from office late due to some urgent work..he called my parnts and said I m a prostitute and many more abbusive things about me and my character…I went back to my parnts home…my parents councelled him n then he took me back to his home…then within one month he his brother and mother literally threw me out of the house…..I never went back after that….it has been one and a half years now….I live alone……he does not want a divorce ….. and he does not want to live with me also….its painful…feel that my life is stuck….cant move forward…..

    • ramesh kumar -

      you are still 28, dont be stuck, just enjoy life or serve the society. go to some ngo and help people and roam around with friends or just get a good guy and marry again. if you get bored write to me on 2006q8@gmail.com

    • Dear – it’s a game of god and our karma. It’s one stage of life which everyone has to go ahead. Never loose hope work hard, we wish you all gud luck for your future.

      Prayfor

  19. hihhello!

  20. Hi,
    I need some advice. Mine was a love cum arranged marriage. Though I lloved him a lot, I never felt him reciprocate. He was always chatting with other friends who r girls and is an technology addict..doesnt have a stable job. Not interested in physical relation with his wife. His parents are separated and his mom uses me as a target to remove her frustration. He almost threw me out of the house and called my parents to take me back
    But my parents didnt intervene so I had to stay back. Finally I took a job and am away since 8 months. He got a job here but refuses to join me..sometimes says he will come. .
    My life is so uncertain and even after 4 years of marriage I am yearning for attention. I find myself being atttacted to other males.
    Please advice..social problems stand in the way of being bold nd applying for divorce.

  21. Diana Pinto

    Our society has never been easy on divorced women (men). Women today are not only surviving divorce but also leading quality lives after the experience. I loved your interesting take on the various aspects of the subject and the coping tips.

  22. I am 32 year old men and working as a Engineer in MNC on very good post. I got married on 2012 and mine was arrange marriage. In Indian society, We always seen that men are cheater and they are not responsible family person, but it is not at all true.

    After two months of marriage , my ex-wife did not want to live with me, her parents forced her for this marriage. She always denied for sex with me. Because of this after three months of marriage ,me and my ex-wife went to my in-law home but their, they alreay know the mentally unstable behavior of her and told me this would not be happened again.

    And I came to my home with my ex-wife in hope that this would be the end of my family life quarrel. But after that situation changed dramatically, She was torn into very arrogant and always hurt me by her low level word.

    She was forcefully living with me because of her parents and after the patch I became the father but did not find any change in my wife behavoiur, after motherhood it was became worst for me. She never allowed me touch my daughter and always told me that the kid is not yours , if you want to prove this then go to court and prove it. After hearing my wife’s statement, I got shokced and paralyzed for some time.

    After this I had invited her parent to come to Pune and solve this puzzle. But they ditched me ..no family member from their side came …they are lair and I got cheated by my in-law. I called her uncle and told them I don’t want to live with her, They took her and filed false cases on me…

    Now I am fighting the false cases. For someone mistakes I am suffering …. Now I want to ask you tell me what is my fault ? …I lost… and I have been cheated by in-law. And Indian society always blame men….now I want to move out form this problem …..and I want to start the new life…ans I don’t want such type of lady in my life …and I am rigorously waiting for you reply about my post.

    Welcome to your reply..

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