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There come moments in our lives where we must put ourselves in someone else's shoes to understand them. Or we must have the ability to help them out in the best way possible, even if it's a deed as small as listening to someone's problems.
There come moments in our lives where we must put ourselves in someone else’s shoes to understand them. Or we must have the ability to help them out in the best way possible, even if it’s a deed as small as listening to someone’s problems.
She was the oldest in my team – a bubbly, jovial person who suddenly showed signs of sombreness after marriage. Her smile and endurance were her strength and I could see the graph dropping down in those difficult years. Life was tough and she had chosen to confine herself within that shell.
I remember, after her direct reporting Manager had an aggressively defensive encounter with her, her performance and attitude issues increased. He wanted me to speak with her and I agreed.
I saw her from outside the meeting room, all set with her claws and teeth to pounce on me the moment I talk to her about the escalations. I went near her, put my hand on her shoulder and said, “I want to hear you”. Tears rolled down her eyes and she burst out crying. She held my hand tightly indicating her immense pain. I waited till she was fine after which she shared her struggles regarding her health and other problems.
She requested for a little more time to manage things before she quit her job as she was unable to cope and had to choose. I ensured her my full support. I had nothing to say but I felt a deep satisfaction on hearing her. And I guess she had been waiting for someone to hear her out. Choosing to quit, she resigned after two weeks on a very happy note.
I learnt, handling teams is more about being an Anchor than being a Manager.
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Ruchi is a new person who has dared to break all walls of monotony in life, a dreamer, a learner and likes to derive inspiration in all situations she is into. Recently plunged into a read more...
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People say that women are the greatest enemies of women. I vehemently disagree. It is the patriarchal mindset that makes women believe in the wrong ideology.
The entire world celebrates International Women’s Day on March 8, 2024. It should be a joyful day, but unfortunately, not all women are entitled to this privilege, as violence against women is at its peak. The experience of oppression pushes many women to choose freedom. As far as patriotism is concerned, feminism is not a cup of tea in this society.
What happens when a woman decides to stand up for herself? Does this world easily accept the decisions of women in this society? What inspires them to be free of the clutches of the oppression that women have faced for ages? Most of the time, women do not get the chance to decide for themselves. Their lives are always at the mercy of someone, which can be their parents, siblings, husband, or children.
In some cases, women do not feel the need to make any decisions. They are taught to obey the patriarchal system, which makes them believe that they are right. In my family, I was never taught to make decisions on my own. It was always my parents who bought dresses and all that I needed.
14 years after her last feature film Dhobi Ghat, storyteller extraordinaire comes up with her new film, Laapataa Ladies, a must watch.
*Some spoilers alert*
Every religion around the world dictates terms to women. The onus is always on women to be ‘modest’ and cover their faces and bodies so men can’t be “tempted”, rather than on men to keep their eyes where they belong and behave like civilized beings. So much so that even rape has been excused on the grounds of women eating chowmein or ‘men will be men’. I think the best Hindi movie retort to this unwanted advice on ‘akeli ladki khuli tijori ki tarah hoti hai’ (an alone woman is like an open jewellery box) came from Geet in Jab We Met – Kya aap gyan dene ke paise lete hain kyonki chillar nahin hain mere paas.
The premise of Laapataa Ladies is beautifully simple – two brides clad in the ghunghat that covers their identity get mixed up on a train. Within this Russian Doll, you get a comedy of errors, a story of getting lost, a commentary on patriarchy’s attitude towards women, a mystery, and a tale of finding oneself, all in one. Done with a mostly light touch that has you laughing and nodding along.
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